Wedding Invitation Etiquette?

Weddings are a touchy subject, and I think everyone has a right to limit who can and can't attend the event. Not that I agree with your friend, but it's her daughter's wedding so she's entitled to have her say.

What I find outright rude and tacky is that they lay the guilt trip onto you about attending. If you don't come then the wedding will be ruined? My god, if I haven't heard all the worst lines in the world...

By no means should you go. As you said, it's a lot of effort and driving alone is always kind of scary. Most importantly, don't go because of the way they're pressuring you.

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By no means are you required to go. I'm surprised that you weren't allowed to bring a guest! That is asking a lot of you to drive two hours and get a room without allowing you to bring someone to help defray the cost. Also I am surprised they won't let you bring someone considering the only two people you know are the bride and mother of the bride. I do not believe that you are being treated fairly. As a recent bride, I can't imagine doing that to a close friend! I would explain the situation to them and hopefully they will be understanding. Good luck.

Usually you are always able to bring a guest. I don't think it is proper etiquette to say that you can't bring anyone.

As for you ruining the wedding if you don't go, well unless you are in it and have a dress or are some part of the wedding, you aren't going to be ruining it. I believe you are being told that so you feel bad and go.

No one expects you to drive two hours by yourself and pay for a room for a wedding where you know two people. Just send a card and gift. That is what I would do.

Technically, it is rude to ask to bring a friend to the event - or any event, for that matter. However, "you will be ruining the wedding" is also a very rude response. If attending this wedding is financially not appropriate (cost of the room, gas, etc) then do not feel obligated to go. Simply being invited somewhere does not mean you have to go at all. Send them a nice card and gift, and wish them well. People who are that tacky do not deserve your attendance and your gas/hotel money.

Best Regards,

Holly

HOW DOE'S THIS SOUND HOW MANY TIMES DO I HAVF TOO TELL YOU TOO CLEAN YOUR ROOM OR HOW MANY TIMES DO I HAVE TOO TELL YOU TOO GO TOO BED EVEN THEN I DID NOT LIKE TOO BE TOLD TOO DO ANYTHING BUT THEY WERE MY PARENTS AND THEY WERE PEOPLE WHO I COULD TRUST AND THATS BECAUSE THEY LOVED ME AND I COULD SEE THAT THEY LOVED EACH OTHER now when you are all grown up you are faced with an option and that is to make your own desissions based on love? and do you love being told what too do and are you saying that my parents expectided me too answer too everyone when ever they wanted me to jump for I AM A PRODUCT OF THIER LOVE AND AN EXTENTION OF OF THEM they use too tell me I was twice as smart as they were and they must be right for together they made me now I say THREE times because I am now with them and if you were too join the ones who loved us and wanted us too grow up and feel well needed and thought of as a loved one we must stand for the right things or all of the effort they put into our lives would or been waisted and everyone who has love in thier heart knows this ARE YOU NEEDING TO BE REMINDED OVER AND OVER or has it been a long time sience someone told you they loved you and you know right from wrong you know what a mother would say my child follow your heart and you will find happiness I know this is not easy comeing from me but if you knew what I knew you would see all of the love that has ever been and we will understand if you choose to do what you want just remember there is not only you at stake here somewhere down the line you might be called upon to help another and will you tell anyone what too do or will you guild them in the right direction? such as a child who don't know better for you see my child moma was right you must stand on your own two feet.....

Id call the bride's mother and tell her firmly that I feel totally unable to drive all that way by myself. Therefore, I will not be attending. And then hang up.

I agree wholly with T_L_C on your being treated unfairly, i am about to be getting married and there is no way that i would invite someone and not allow them to bring a guest, for any reason albeit money or otherwise.