Cutting off friends after marriage?

They do it because their spouse in now the center of their life and attention.

Some do it because they are pressured to do it by their spouse and family and some do it just because they want to.

It just depends how people are and how their relationships are. Some people are independent and marry someone else that is independent... these couples seem to have no problem doing things apart from one another and don't feel the need to be involved with every activity or get together. Then there are people that choose to be with each other all of the time... whatever they do they do it together... You have to remember that newlyweds are going to be totally into each other for about two years until things relax enough.

Marriage does change things, especially between married people and their still single friends... it just happens. Wait until a baby comes and you will be even more on the outs. People tend to gravitate towards people that they can relate to.... married people hang with other couples and once they all start churning out the kiddies... forget about it... I have some good friendships but once I was going out with my fiance I let a lot of those relationships suffer... Let's face it, for most of us, if you have a choice to hang with your spouse or with your friends... most of us choose the spouse.

Your answers received realm from the extreme to closer to the truth. It's not about you in any relationship. True friends keep in touch and get together, if time permits. The married life does revolve new priorities and circles of contacts. Two families joined with in-laws, and added visiting and family lines. Other weddings, deaths, and gatherings are in the calendar. So back to you, your relationship with lost friends due to your thought of "being now married" isn't the reason you seem to go on different paths. It interrupted a casual friendship, and never got back on track. If it was an endearing one, then it should have rejoined at a later date. My answer covered types of friends and reasons, and maybe none of them apply. Being busy is a poor excuse to dismiss a true friend. Cut off means in this case to separate and lost interest of people one was friends at one time. New friends will arrive and maybe ones you can have a lasting relationship. They won't use those handy excuses to explain why they just don't have time for you.......

I know exactly what you mean here, because I have experience this! Some married couples are just way too busy with work, family, higher education-homework and all. They don't like the social life or the social interaction with other folks.

As for me. "Life of a Party" husband/dad. Everyone b/f-g/f relationship or newly weds or other married couples within family relatives or within the family circle of friends is all welcome at my house for big house parties. Some people don't like this! Others like me love this! Why because, I miss my grandma, granddad, mother, father, 6 brothers and 6 sisters. This is why I intend to have more and more friends connections all over the place. My in laws are totally cool, but are way too boring and old fashioned big time. I love house parties with other crazy silly married couples.

i'm not married, but i am engaged w/ a child and i can say that i really am too busy! i don't think people ditched their friends, but i think their priorites change and family becomes the most important aspect. i do make room for my friends, but i just dont have as much time as i did in the past. you'll see when you get married and start a family. i would also like to add that there are more obligations when in a family, such as family events that involve grandparents, nieces/nephews, birthdays...when you become part of someone's family, you take it ALL...and that take up a lot of time

I suppose it would depend on what kind of friends you are with the person. Are you "go out to the bar after work" friends? Or "go to the club to scope out guys" friends? I would think that after marriage, most women would stop those things (and probably most men too).

Sometimes it's just the way those people are. I have lots of friends that as soon as they have a bf/gf they see less of the rest of their friends. To some people their significant other will always come first and probably you'll just have to accept it or allow those friends to turn into holiday acquaintances.

Some people just lose their individualism when they marry. They think all time, energy and emotion should go into marriage. I think it's unhealthy to throw yourself into that situation. It's kind of old school thinking as well. Friends are important and being an individual is important.

To be honest, those who are really good friends, I don't lose sight of, but at the same time, with a spouse, they have more of my attention and my spouse is my best friend. Those I truly care about are still in my life, but those who where superficial are not, maybe to them, your friendship wasn't deep enough emotionally.

Really?

Wait until everyone starts having kids, you will be lucky to see your friends once or twice a year!