Does anyone know how to help someone who has come out of a cult?

I have been in a cult for 33 years and just recently learned that no one was practicing what they were preaching! This has left me desolated, on the verge of suicide, disillusioned and angry! I have turned to drinking, looking for sex because it was forbidden in this cult and just trying to learn how to live life over again in a normal vain. How does one know what is right and what is wrong after such an episode of life and stolen years. I am interested in a man who is in another state from mine and think he is my souemate. Should I pursue this?