Should I send this email to her?

If she wants a few days, give her a few days. She can't tell you what she's thinking when she probably can't answer your questions right now, and no matter how many times you say you don't want to look pushy, that's how it's going to come across. If she doesn't respond in a week, then you can let her know that you understand she needs to think, but you can't wait forever.

Reading this makes me feel like you are pleading to make sense out of a situation you have no control over. It sounds desperate. She knows all this already. You know all that's been said already. All you will get if anything is repetition of the same thing. Wait, if that's what you're willing to do. If not, move on. You will adjust in time, you really will.

To be honest, it's a little gay. There's such a thing as talking it to death. You love her, you want to be with her- that's it. Why do you need to say you're not willing to put yourself out there to be hurt? I've got news for you- when we take a leap in love, we all take that chance. None of us are immune to heartbreak, it's part of the deal. Just let her work it out. You're playing it TOO safe and it shouldn't be. It should be reckless and a little dangerous- otherwise it'll be boring.

You say you're not pressuring her, but that e-mail is a lot of pressure. Plus, you shouldn't use new man's name. It's off-putting. Just don't send it. Play it cool.

Um don't send this...

Even though you said it like 3 or 4 times that your not pressuring her.. you are. It sounds forceful and kind of stalkish.

If someone says they need time, they do. So even if it means your not talking for a week then thats the way it is. this email is completely full of emotional BS and it will more than likely ruin any chance you have....

I had a problem a couple days ago with that. Finally get around to replying to some emails and this happens lol

Personally, I think a face to face is better than an e-mail. That way, you can see her facial expressions, and know if she's real or not. I've read your other stuff about your relationship with her, and I think that you've got to use some tough love here. You broke up for a reason, and as one person said, is that reason still there? Has she changed? Does she want to change? In a relationship, when you have a conflict with your loved one, there must be a compromise in order to get things worked out. Both parties must be involved in this. It's both people putting 100% of themselves into their relationship that makes things go forward. You're sitting here, wondering about her motives. She hasn't assured you that she's done with this fella she's been living with. That puts you in limbo, wondering if you'll still have a life with her, or if she'll flake out and keep doing what she's doing. I would ask her to meet you in a quiet place, like maybe a park or other place that's public but with some privacy to talk. Tell her that unless she gives up her former life with this fella, the two of you will not be able to go on and build a relationship built on trust. That unless she wants to give 100% of herself to loving only you, that you will move on. She's got to know that there can be no other men in her life. It wouldn't be fair to you, or to any future you'd have with her. If she can't figure out where you figure in her life, then you both have to move on. She can't keep breezing into and out of your life, giving you hope that something will happen. You've already given her two years of your life. If she hasn't grown up now, it would be best to just leave her to her life of indecision. You need to lay your feelings on the line here.It's got nothing to do with persuading her to do anything she doesn't want to do. It's you telling her how far you're going to go, and your expectations in your relationship with her. If you want to continue getting those early morning wake-up calls, then I guess that's up to you. I think she's just using you as a soft place to land...sorry. I've seen it too often in other relationships with those I know. You're just a nice guy that she knows she can come to for comfort. It sounds like you're already having doubts as to her sincerity, and that's a very wise move on your part. How could you ever trust her, especially with having moved in with a fella so soon after your break-up. It just seems like she's looking for someone to support her lifestyle, not someone who wants a stable relationship based on trust and commitment. Yes, it's a good thing you didn't marry her. I think it's time to move on, and build a new relationship with someone that you don't have a history with. You don't always want to be wondering what she's doing and if she'll be home when you get there, or find a note that she's trying to "find herself". "Find yourself" someone who will treat you with the dignity of being honest. You deserve better than what she's given you. <*)))><

It sounds like a very good email. Very calm and very rational. But why are you giving her the choice?

Dont you deserve to make the choice? Do you really want to wait to see if she chooses you while she is with someone else?

You seem like such a wonderful man.

I would just tell her that you love her, and that you are willing to take things slow, but that she needs to choose. Does she want to pursue things with you? OR does she not? I wouldn't even involve the other guy. It needs to be about you, and her. Not you, her, and him.

Good luck.

This is terrible. Do not send it. You are acting like a doormat. Why would you even want someone back who is with another man. Just let her go and don't think twice. Even if she comes back she'll just leave you again. Don't send this and keep your manhood.

You loser! Are you goign to put P.S. the people on Yahoo! Answers thought its a good e-mail. Its got 75% best answers! You deserve to be divorced. Cmon take this stuff from your heart man. Dont send her this. Write another one and dont run it by us on Yahoo. You gotta know man. Good luck with your situation. Sorry bout callin you a loser but thats really bad that you did this. Hope you have happy family one day!!