POLL: Does virginity matters ..................................... ?

hmm... i think virginity is good. Purity until marriage.

Virginity is a rather controversial subject nowadays. On the one hand there are girls who are embarrassed that they are still virgins, and wish to get rid of their virginity, and on the other hand there are still men who wish their wives to be virgins and it is so important to them.

I am not a man, so I can't answer the 1st question.

But what I think is that we should accept ourselves (us girls) as we are and we should be accepted in turn by the man who loves as we are. Human can make mistakes... the past will remain the past... it is no use to try digging the past... no use feeling guilty or embarrassed... everything has a beginning and the beginning does not necessarily mean forever...

To understand the tradition of virginity and why it matters, let's take a look at Sigmund Freud's explanation.

Freud, at the beginning of "The Taboo of Virginity", states the

following:

"The demand that a girl shall not bring to her marriage with a

particular man any memory of sexual relations with another is,

indeed, nothing other than a logical continuation of the right of

exclusive possession of a woman, which forms the essence of monogamy,

the extension of this monopoly to cover the past."

"Whoever is the first to satisfy a virgin's desire for love, long and

laboriously held in check, and who in doing so overcomes the

resistances which have been built up in her through the influences of

her milieu and education, that is the man she will take into a

lasting relationship, the possibility of which will never again be

open to any other man."

"This experience creates a state of bondage in the woman which

guarantees that possession of her shall continue undisturbed and

makes her able to resist new impressions and enticements from

outside."

Q1: Does virginity matters ... ... ... ???

How come that some men want their fiance to be virgins yet they are just so eager to destroy the virginity of other girls?

In the point of view of a man, would you prefer to have a virgin wife or you'd rather go with an experienced one?

It depends on your point of view. But I think you underestimate some men. Not everything men think about is 'destroying the virginity' of other girls, I know some that consider virginity to be very important and that have sworn to stay virgins themselves until matrimony.

Q2: Why is virginity so important ... ... ... ???

Again, it depends on your point of view and what do you believe.

Q3: In your opinion, is virginity " worthless " ... ... ... ???

why or why not ... ... ... ???

No, I don't think is worthless.

Q4: Why still females being asked about virginity check ... ... ... ???

Every 50 out of 100 men ask for virgin girls .Im not a woman but i want to ask to MAN ... Why is it always females expected to be virgins before marriage generally when guys can hook-up with no.of girls , no body ask them about their virginity .( I would like to know especially what guys all-over think about this?Do they want to take virgin girls as their life-partners or will they just reject them as they are not virgins no matter how good they are?)

Again, this is generalization. Not all men are alike. I guess you'll have to ask them, because i don't know.

Q5 : When is innocence lost ... ... ... ???

No, I don't mean virginity.

Unless you connect one losing their innocence to one losing their virginity...

When is the innocence within us lost? What IS innocence to you?

When should it be lost? Does it have to be lost?

Excellent question. Chek this great answer to my question:

http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=AuljX...

Innocence is lost when you get your first dose of hard reality. It is a sad but real fact of life. It could be your best first cheating...it could be death of a loved one or a pet. It is bad when it has to do with personal relationships...the feeling like being used.

Innocence hopefully will not be lost at an early age and it will not be about advantage.

Sometimes they ask if you are a virgin because they respect the status..otherwise think you are fair game.

Once you reach a certain age...say over 25...virginity does not matter to most people.

I have taken a guys virginity..by the way. But we were both mid 20's.

I would recommend you keep your virginity intact until you are ready to be a parent...and get the gardisil shots..

If you do not want to be a parent..then you are too young..really. My opinion and there are exceptions.

I don't mean you only have sex for procreation..not recreation.

I'm saying if your life has not been lived long enough that you could settle down..then you are better off waiting for sex..as you are still learning other things...a skill, hobbies...friends..relationships.

I am not an expert in this but I will try to answer.

Q1.I don't see that it matters as much as it once did in our society.Although in some cultures it is important to marry a virgin.

I am not a man..so I can't answer this as aman would, but for myself.

If I were a man I would want someone who was not a virgin, but at the same time one who is not too experienced. That way she could learn with me.

Q2. I can't say that it is.

Q3. I'm sorry, I don't have an answer for this.

Q4.I have not figured that out yet myself. If so many men expect their women to be virgins, they should not take that away from us so we will be one at our wedding bed.

Q5.I think innocence lost is whenever a child HAS to grow up quickly. They have seen and/or experienced something so horrific in their lives that it makes them grow up faster than they should have to.( like the brutal death of a parent).

I hope this helps.

1) yes virginity is very important... some guys are just selfish... =[

2) Its the symbolism of innocence and the sacrifice you make when your in love... =]

3) no and should only be lost ot some one you love...

4) A man always loves a good girl....

5) I think virginity and innocence should only be lost to someone you really love and care for ... not necessarly marriage... but it shouldnt be cheap

Excellent questions!!!

1. Does virginity matter?! On the surface it seems like a flat-out no, but there are a lot of people (the majority maybe?) who say they wished they'd waited. I wonder, if those same people had waited, how many wish they had waited until they got married. My guess is many of them wish they had waited until they found someone they truly loved. That doesn't necessarily mean they wish they'd waited until they married. With the divorce rate as high as it is that brings in the issue of whether that marriage partner was the right person. That's a whole other ballgame there.

To me virginity matters very much. I am a virgin and want to marry a virgin. That means if I get into a relationship and we didn't have sex and we broke up, my heart can heal faster, and I don't have to worry about pregnancy or STDs/STIs.

Hassan, I wish I could answer that one about why it seems like guys are bent on having sex before marriage but want to marry a virgin. While that seems to be the norm, that's not always the case. There are still guys who remain virgins until they marry, and they want to marry a virgin. This probably, in most cases, has something to do with religious beliefs and their own personal value system. Unless you are taught to value yourself and your virginity, holding strong convictions about virginity, I think it's easier to give it away to the wrong person. Each time you have sex, you're making a physical, spiritual, emotional connection with a person. When that relationship breaks, so do the bonds created by sex, and that can have a devastating spiritual affect that can ooze into other areas of one's life.

2. Virginity is an awesome, selfless gift that was created and intended for a monogamous marriage between a man and a woman. God blessed marriage for procreation, the ultimate expression of love, and pleasure.

3. To me, no, virginity is NOT worthless. It is one of the most valuable, precious gifts we all have. We also have free will to choose what to do with it. I value mine highly. If I get married, great, I can give that gift to a very special person; if I never marry I can live without sex. The positive side of having had lifelong depression is low libido.

4. I asked each of my boyfriends whether they were virgins. I'm pretty sure that of the few boyfriends I had, the majority lied and told me what I wanted to hear. Right away I didn't believe them.

5. Innocence isn't just virginity. Innocence is that simplicity, wonder, awe, amazement about life, eagerness to learn, and unconditional love and trust you find in very young children. They don't have to work or worry and don't have responsibilities. Their lives can be carefree if they're not weighed down by the stress and problems their parents deal with (like finances). Through genetics we have predispositions to some factors that can affect who we are, but I think a majority of our problems come from life experience--stress, frustration, loss, having our trust betrayed, etc. Since children are so impressionable, whether they live with an abusive parent, an uncaring parent, a drug- or alcohol-addicted parent, or parents who don't have time for their kids, children's outlook on life, personality, and moods can be tarnished and innocence lost.

There's also sexual innocence which can be lost through sexual abuse or whenever a person starts having sex. Even without penetration it's lost through fooling around in a sexual manner. The first innocence to be lost is childlike innocence--the wonder and excitement of being alive. I wonder, if people who have lost hope and are suicidal could find that childhood wonder and expectation if they'd feel more hopeful about living.

No, innocence doesn't have to be lost, but sadly it happens all too often. Maybe that's why it's so important to spend time with young children and let their excitement of discovery rub off on you.

I hope this gives you something to think about. May God bless you. :o)

For the question of virginity...LOVE is the answer.

Innocence is different. Innocence is lost when we forget to be as little children...Innocent in our thoughts and actions. When we stop believing that anything is possible.

If no guy wants the virgin wife then i think no woman in the world is going 2 lose their virginity! lol.. isn't it?

Have a nice day!

Q1.. Yes.. virginity does matters.

Q2.. virginity is important because that shows what the person is like.

it matters to women a lot..

Q3.. No.. virginity is never worthless. because virginity is very important to girls..

Q4.. for secruity purposes.

Q5.. innocence is lost when u lost ur virginty..

Wow. You have a lot of questions haven't you?

Well, personally, i don't think virginity is that important, however, i still am one, but only because i choose not to waste it on a loser. I don't expect to be a virgin when i get married, and i don't need my fiance to be one either, although i wouldn't mind if he was. When you marry someone you don't just do it cause they're good in bed, having said that, i do want my man to at least know his way around.