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My Mom is really hurtful...this is serious...plzz help!?
THIS IS GONNA BE LONG PLEASE DONT RESPONSE IF YOU DONT WANT TO READ!! BUT I REALLY NEED HELP!!!!
My mom always makes fun of me when she's mad. When she gets mad she starts making fun of my face and says i have such ugly acne and i'm overweight and nobody likes ugly tall girls. Everytime i misbehave like any other teenager would she would forcefully make me apologize to them and if i dont they would just stop talking to me and eventually ill end up apologizing at the most smallest things. And everytime my two twin sisters would misbehave my parents would just forgive them. I ALWAYS have to apologize when i do something wrong. When i start getting like C's in a progress report my mom would yell at me and tell me that i'm going nowhere in life and no guy would want to marry a illiterate girl. When my sisters get C's and D's sometimes they would be like its okay they'll bring it up. They would make any excuse for them but not me. They always expect more from me and i always let them down. My mom always makes me cry and sometimes i cry myself to sleep. Just thinking about all those hurtful things they did to me just makes me cry. If i was a actor on TV and i had to do a emotional scene all i have to think about is how my family treats me and id just breakdown. My grandmother (my mom's mom)was a stubborn, selfish, mean lady. My mom always tells me how i'm nothing like our family and how nobody in our family acts like me. She says i'm just like her mom (my grandmother) Its like such a bad thing to be called my grandmother. She says i'm mean and selfish and stubborn just like my grandmother. She thinks im this cold hearted person with no love. I just dont show my emotions. That doesn't make me a cold hearted person. I've come to realize that i'm a sensitive person. Whenever my mom makes fun of me i just cry. I can't help myself. It's hard. She tells me later on when im married my husband wouldn't even come near me and then she says wait how would you even get one? She tells me i suck in school, i suck in sports and nobody likes me. She went to back to school night with my dad and none of them decided to follow my schedule. Instead they followed my sisters'. They never do anything with me. Before Back to school night my mom asked me what teacher's are troubling me and i told her but she didn't care and never even met them. Then she came home and told me that none of my teachers complimented me and they dont like me much. I sometimes felt like suiciding or running away. My dad tells my mother sometimes that this girl (me) is not my daughter. My mom says i dont want her. That hurts so bad. My parents dont like me at all. In front of people she acts nice to me but its fake. Nobody in my family likes me and my mom really hurts my feelings. She also makes me sleep on the ground sometimes. (We live in a apartment so i share my room with my sisters) We have one queen bed and the other's single. She tells me that i bother my sister at night while i sleep and take up too much space so she makes me sleep on the floor. She told me i couldn't sleep on the couch because ill just dent it. So the floor is the only option. She has brought my self-esteem so down that i try to hide from people.I try to hide my face and wear loose clothing cuz i dont want any clothes exposing my body. She tells me everyone hates me and i have no friends. She says i'm so different and im a oddball from the family and none of the relatives or the neighbors or anyone like me. She tells me to help my sisters in everything like carrying groceries and stuff and they dont have to help me. My parents say i never do anything around in the house but i do more than my sisters. They never notice and they don't care.
I dont know what to do! PLEASE HELP!!! I cried writing this, i swear. I need help! Please suggest some ideas. What should i do?
(Sorry this was long but i just wanted to say everything.)
Please dont response saying "this is too long." If you dont want to read this or help then dont answer.
i'm 16 by the way
everytime i talk about this or write about it or even think about it i breakdown. I can't go to the police. Ive actually told them once when i was 12 that i would call the police and they said go ahead you're gonna be send to foster care and then get raped and we will never forgive you and your body will burn in hell. I can't go to a phsycologist because how am i supposed to pay. The guidance counselors at my school tell everything to parents and there's this one lady in school who ppl can talk to but she's really bad. She doesn't really care.
ive tried talking to them saying that it hurts when you say this to me and they just tell me when a parent's saying something mean to you they're just showing some love. Which i dont understand because this kind of love makes you want to cry.
i feel like ive given up. She says whatever she wants to say to me. I let her say it and just suck it in and cry about it later. Sometimes i can't control it and i have cried in front of her sometimes when she made fun of me. But she kept saying more and more stuff about me. She always tells me how other people's children are way better than me even better looking than me but i feel like ive lost every hope. I used to use acne medicine but not anymore ive given up on that bcuz my mom makes it sound like ill always be ugly and then she makes fun of me being overweight and ive given up on that too. I stopped working out. I dont care i think im gonna have acne and be overweight for the rest of my life. My mom's brought my self-esteem so low that i dont think a rapist would even want to rape me. Like i also wouldn't care if i get raped but then again who would want to rape me?
i dont think im ever gonna get married either. who would want to marry me? I dont believe in premarital sex so i think ill be virgin for the rest of my life probably work at some low paying job and just die in my sleep or old age or something. So far that's what ive planned or what i think will happen. Ive lost every hope in life and i just plan to suffer for the rest of my life
14 Answers
- 1 decade agoFavorite Answer
Is there another relative you can go live with? My mom sucked as a mom and I wish I would have thought about it then...I could have gone and lived with my grandmother. How about your dad's mom? Aunts/Uncles? Cuz your situation is really bad.
Other than moving out, you may just have to bear it until you graduate then get the heck outta there. That's what I did.
Also, look up Borderline Personality and other personality disorders. If you do have to continue living there, maybe it'll help to understand what's wrong with them. I finally realized MY mom is narcissistic.
- 1 decade ago
I read through this and didn't see if you stated your age. Can I assume you are 14 or 15? I have 4 kids- 3 girls and a boy. The youngest is almost 18 now- I'm not trying to down play what you are saying here, but all of the girls went through a really REALLY bad time between 13 and 16. Its a really tough time for girls.
If things are as you say, you could talk to your school counselor. They are trained to talk to teens, and have the resources to help you. They can suggest what steps you should/could make.
Good luck.
- 1 decade ago
Wow, sweetie Im soo sorry about all of this. Is there a teacher or something that you can go to? Honestly, I think that foster care is better than where you are at now, consider the police again. You won't "get raped" or "burn in hell" Your a good person. Dont let your mom change that about you.
Add me on myspace
myspace.com/ashley_michelle_2007 and we can talk more if you want.
or you can email me on here if you would like to, either way I think that we should talk.
Stay strong sweetie :)
Source(s): thanks for answering my question <33 - 1 decade ago
Wow...you sound just like me..my mom did the same exact thing to me..i couldnt stand it...but honey wht ever u do dont ever commit suacide...i tried once and the rope was ready and i was standing on the latter and then i just stood there and thought for a min why throw my life away now even tho i goign thought horrible times i still should break down...DONT EVER GIVE UP! the last time my mom said somthing to me like bringing me down i finnaly put my foot down andi called the child center and i said everything i needed to say and i have cameras all over my house by the security people and if my mom said one more thinng she would be put in a phcotic home....but she watched wht she said everythings better now but i still feel like somethings wrong and i dont dare trush her but my lifes a whole lot better..i went to this class that built my confidence up..and now i feel better than ever..plz honey dont give up i didnt so i hope u folo my advice
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- :)Lv 41 decade ago
whatever you do please please please do not commite suicide..
hun, you really need to report this to someone, try and find a family member you can live with.
And no living with a foster parent does not mean you are going to get raped. You should not have to go through this. your mom just says these hurtful things because she doesnt have enough self esteem for herself. Please just talk to someone and try and get out of there. FAST
o just so you know
you ARE beautiful
acne IS normal for your age (i have it too)
your weight is FINE!!
Dont let what she says get to you. Try finding someone who maybe you look up to and find a goal, something you want to complete and work up to. And for a person you look up to it could be anyone someone who is a big advocate or anything. And you will get married someday if you want to. the right guy will come along, but until then you will just have to wait until he does just like everyone else.
God Bless
Love always---
me.
Email or comment (whichever) anytime you wanna talk
- 1 decade ago
i belive there are several possible solutions:
1. print this and give the same letter to them (if they love you a little bit they will understand)
2. yell at them telling them all that you have write (a bit stronger solution but at least you will get it all out)
3.go to a relatives house to sleep and tell them this
4. tell this to some social worker or something (ask around i dont think that is a way a mother treats a doguhter, it makes you fell bad and a social worker can explain that to them or even give them a punishment or something)
5. start beeing a bit better and try to be in a better relationship with your sisters. and tell your mum that you are also her child who is no worse then the other two so you deserve no worse treatment.
and most of all, dont fell bad. when my mum is angr she used to use that kind of words that i am stupid or fat or a cow or something but i talked to her and she apologised. i didint let this to afect me, i usualy talked to friends, write and convinsed myself that i am better then she thinks i am. i dont have to prove anything to anywone. if i know myself and i am satisfated with it there is no one in this world that can stop me beeing myself. dont close your heart. if you want to you can write me on my email. anyway good luck!
- 1 decade ago
Oh my god, I'm so sorry.
You're right, you do have it worse than me.
She's probably jealous of you, or maybe she's holding in some emotions too and takes them all out on you.
You're beautiful, everybody is in their own way.
Do you have any friends you can talk to? Or maybe you can join some online forum.
Your skin will clear up.
In two years, I would definitely suggest moving out. Maybe once you move out, you will gain some self-confidence and get a job, or go to college[if you can get the money]
I'll pray for you.
- 1 decade ago
i can sit down and write a whole book about my life story and trust me it wasn't easy. its sad to see your only 16 and going through what your going through. please dont go commit suicide its not worth it. you can go see a psychologist that's in the hospital. it seems like you have no talk in that family. think of a family member you can talk to and go live with. i pray for you. i use to go through psychical and mental abuse in my home from my lil sis father and mom didnt do anything about cause she loved him and she was also scared of him. i couldnt take living there anymore so i got a job and moved out and my live its better now and me and my mom get along better now since i moved out. yes there was time that i think about commiting suicide but im glade i didnt cause its not worth it and im pretty sure he would be glade to see me 6 feet under im not going to give him that pleasure.
as far as being 16 and tall and have acne dont worry about that dont let your mother tell you nothing you'll grow all that out thats just puberty most teens go through i went through it too and if you see my face now my face is clean and clear. i cant understand y your mother have so much dislike for you dont let that get your down take that and make it get your stronger and prove her wrong.
- 1 decade ago
Oh
My
God
im not trying to be mean, but i seriously feel like punching your family, and i don't even know you. that really makes me sick how they treat you. when i think how i would feel if my mom or grandma started telling me i was fat and ugly and i'd never get a boyfriend, i would just run way to my friend amber's house. her parents are kinda mean sometimes, but they'd never say things like that.
you could call the police and talk to someone about your situation. they might consider it a type of harassment or abuse. or you could call a hot line. OR.. you could talk to a teacher, or stay with a friend for a while if its alright with her parents.
BUT PLEASE, PLEASE PLEASE, DON'T COMMIT SUICIDE! I FEEL LIKE THERE'S SOMETHING THAT CAN BE DONE, BUT IF YOU DIED, I WOULD BE REALLY MAD , REALLY ANGRY BECAUSE YOUR PARENTS DROVE YOU TO DO IT.
just remember that SOMEONE cares for you. not everyone can hate you. its impossible, unless you're the cruelest and most horrible person in the world. but after reading this, i seriously, 100% doubt it.
I really hope it all works out for you!! you sound like a really nice person in a really really crappy situation.!
- 1 decade ago
I cry for you!
Listen to me you have to tell a realitive. Someone that will take you in.
I know it sounds hard. But It will be the best thing you ever do..
Please don't let them do this to you any more. You deserve better. And they don't deserve you in thier lives. Find someone anyone tell them. Maybe a school counsolr.
I am praying for you.*****
