How do you demand more respect?

You do not demand respect, you earn it.

Why would you be taking parenting advice from your babysitter in the first place?

No, I don't think you should yell even though if you get really mad sometimes and it just happens then that is a little different because everyone does. I'm not so sure what your consequences are so it makes it kind of difficult to answer. If you give into them then you need to stop that, you can't keep giving into kids because then they won't learn what is right and they will continue to misbehave. As long as you punish them for what they do wrong and stuff then I don't see why their is a problem unless your girls just doesn't respect anybody and does what they want to all the time. If not, then you need to tell your babysitter that they are your kids and you will raise them how you see fit, but you are open to suggestions and to talk about it.

First of all, you don't "demand respect" - you earn it. Specific goals and consequences are fine AS LONG AS you are consistent in carrying them out. If a child is told to do this or that will happen, then THAT MUST HAPPEN in order for the child to know you mean business. Allowing the child to call the shots by worming their way out of it undermines your authority, as does asking the child's permission when told to do something, such as "Stop hitting your sister, okay??" "I asked you to pick those toys up - be a good girl and do it now, okay??" - Drop the "okay???" from those sentences and the entire meaning changes - and the kids know this! YOU are the parent, YOU set the rules and YOU don't need to be their friend - they need guidance & boundaries and consequences for crossing those boundaries. Of course when they do as told, hugs & kisses and thank you's are fine, but don't let them off the hook - and always mean what you say.

Are your girls generally well-behaved? Do you follow through with your consequences consistently and praise your kids when they are doing well? If so, ignore your babysitter. When it comes to parenting, everyone has an opinion.

Don't yell. It doesn't earn you respect, it just proves you've lost control of the situation. What does earn respect is consistency. If you say something is going to happen, it happens. If you say a behavior is unacceptable, you don't tolerate it just to get by.

It is a bit difficult to answer your question since you don't give details. But it is certainly good to set goals for your girls and to reward them for reaching those goals. Respect is a different issue. As the parent, you can demand that your daughters treat you respectfully (don't yell at you, don't use rude language, don't show "attitude" etc.). When they act in a disrespectful way, yelling is not a good way to react because you may end up with a shouting match. When one of my daughters chooses to act disrespectfully toward me or her father she knows that she will be sent to her room - not just for a childish "time out" but to wait for a well-deserved spanking. This has worked pretty well in my home. My girls have learned to be polite and respectful.

Find a new babysitter or tell the current one you will raise your kids as you see fit. Don't start questionning your parenting because a babysitter doesn't think you are doing things right. Everyone has a different style of parenting. If you feel you are raising them properly and they are well behaved then continue doing what you are doing.

i do believe in being firm with children. discipline is very important especially with how kids are these days. i dint think you need to yell though, like Napoleon said, "an important characteristic of a good leader is a cool head", or something similar to that. dint give in when you punish them. that should be good enough to let them know that dad means business.

You get respect by giving it. You cant demand respect if you dont show respect to the person you asking for respect from.

I think being firm can mean being consistent, no exceptions.

i dont really have any suggestions, because im trying to figure this out myself, but i can tell you that yelling is not the answer. i was never the type of person to raise my voice .... but when my son was very young, his father yelled at him loudly over the stupidest little stuff. my son, now 8, yells all the time, even at me, even when im calm. i think its contagious because now i find myself screaming back at him sometimes. the house is just a big screaming emotional pissed off mess whenever 1 person raises their voice. and i have a 1 year old now and its breaking my heart to think that he will turn out this way too.

yelling is bad bad bad.

Since your babysitter is trying to be a parantsitter time for a new one