my daughter want to go to a underage dance club...help me decide?

They're 17. She's practically an adult. Let her go and tell her it's her opportunity to prove that she's responsible. For her going there for the first time, set a curfew (say 1-2 am-don't make it too early, let her have some fun), and tell her she has to call you when she gets there and before she leaves to drive back home. That way you'll know she's ok and she has to follow some rules and prove to be responsible enough.

Don't keep the chain TOO short. Otherwise, she just might go nuts the moment she hits 18.

I'm not sure exactly HOW far the trip is, but I know I live an hour from Toronto (big city) and my friends and I would drive up there at 17. (confusing city, think NYC in terms of busy streets and all the one ways etc). We were always fine. I understand your worry though. What if you offered to drive? Or does she have an older brother or sister that can drive the,? Not follow them to the club. Go find a coffee house and bring a laptop or some books or something but then they don't have to go alone.

Just an option. Make sure they have google maps directions (don't let them use mapquest. Mapquest has gotten me lost SO MANY times). Or if a car has GPS that could work too. And then make sure they all have cell phones FULLY charged. I think they should be fine with these.

Good luck.

Hell No!

She has no business being at a club unchaperoned. If you want to drive them and pick them up, then maybe. I remember being 17 and wanting to be independent. I also know that it was long enough ago that times have changed and I also lived in a small town. With all of the crime and violence in the world, we all as parents should be a little stricter.

Im sure I am going to get booed for this, but it only takes a moment for something to happen that cant be undone.

You are her mother and you decide for her safety.

I'm assuming they're both still in high school, either juniors or seniors. My oldest is a freshman in college, and my opinion is, this is a privelege for college. There's a lot that can happen to young girls in these situations, and they quite simply don't have the judgement to be able to think about what they would do, say if their car breaks down.

No one can tell you how to parent your daughter, but it seems to me that if you're asking folks on the internet what to do, your gut is telling you no. There's a reason we're called parents, and our job is to keep our children safe. I tell my kids I'm not their friend, I'm their mom. If you want a friend, you've got plenty of them, but I'm the only mother you've got.

Maybe a good compromise would be for YOU to drive them. They can still go to the club, but until you're more comfortable with it, you drive them. Give them a couple of hours, and then at midnight they need to come out, and you'll be waiting out front. That way you feel comfortable about their getting there, and they get to go to the club. As they show maturity and responsibility with their driving, you can then allow them to drive themselves.

Also, most major cities do have curfew laws for minors, kids under 18. Many states also have limitations on drivers licences until the holder is 18 as well. It may be that legally they can't drive there yet. But check that out before you use that excuse, because if it's not right, they'll find out in 2 nanoseconds.

Good luck! No one ever said parenting was easy!

I don't think that is such a great idea. 2 girls out on the town, young, pretty, and easily manipulated (or easy prey). I would drive them myself and go hang out somewhere close by. Make sure they have fully charged cell phones. You pick them up. This way you have some control over what happens. You will have a feel for the club and neighborhood they are hanging out in.

At least for the first time they go out like this.

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She's 17. The answer is NO period. You are even crazy for entertaining the idea that they can go.

GPS. Have them leave early and come back early the first time.

Mom, let go of the chain and let her go. She needs to grow up sometime. Do you trust your daughter??? If you think she has a good head on her shoulders let her go. If you don't she will eventually sneak around and go. Show her you have faith in her to be smart. Give her a cell phone or a phone card if she needs to call you she has a way to get in touch with you. I raised 3 daughters and I learned you have to let them grow up and give them the trust they deserve.

I should not go alone