I'm nearly 40, single, and want a baby.......?

How sure are you that he'll stay around forever? Are you guys going to live together or just have joint custody? Maybe you could learn to love him if it's just a physical barrier? I think if you feel like you could take on being a single parent without to many problems then go for it! If not you need to be sure this wouldn't ruin your friendship! Also, one day when you do find "mr. right" do you want him to be like a father to the child? It's a lot to consider! I don't think it's wrong to do at all if it makes a difference!

I'd try doing the dating thing first! Go on myspace and create an account, or a free website that works wonders is plentyoffish.com. You can also go on craigslist.org and look under groups. They usually have a singles connection on there that local singles meet in your area at. If you still don't have any luck, maybe you can look in to adoption? That way, you can leave the messy man drama out of the picture. If you really want to bare your own child, maybe look in to a sperm donor (someone you don't KNOW, but you can learn about). Having a best friend that also wants a child is wonderful, but don't you think that could put a lot of pressure on both of you? Also, it could be very awkward if you do become pregnant. You may be longing for that comfort from a man while your pregnant that he may not be able to justify. Hope everything works out.

Maybe keep it as an option to have a baby with your friend so that you don't feel forced to find somebody that you'll love forever right away. That way you'll have a better chance at finding a person you truly love because you won't be all rushy and just wanting him for his semen (he could sense that), and you'll know you have a fallback plan and won't feel stressed about things working out or not.

Whatever! If you find a suitable partner who wants to have a baby with you within the next five years or so, then great, and if not, you've got your friend.

That's so interesting that your friend, a guy, wants a baby. Are you sure he isn't in love with you because it seems uncommon for a guy to want a baby without having somebody there who he wants to have it with. Did he tell you this before or after you mentioned wanting a baby?

I'm 42, single and currently using a donor! I have been trying for 4 months so far, with no joy yet, so yes, time may not be on your side but it is a very big decision and you need to be sure it is the right time and right situation for you!

Being a single mom is hard sometimes but is also very rewarding (I have three children already).

If you do use a friend be careful that you have discussed everything expected of each of you in detail because it could change your friendship.

Good luck whatever you choose to do!

Go with door number 2! What an ideal situation...you both want a baby, you see each other often, you get along. Your child will have both parents around to raise him/her. If I were in your situation, my personal decision would be to have a child with the friend. But it's a huge life event, and has to feel right for you.

Don,t go down the road of a single Mum a child needs two

isnt there process where you can freeze some of your eggs and use it later... but if this guy is a good friend of yours and get along... maybe that is mr right. but if you want a child theres always adoption. having a child doesnt mean they need two parents there are parents out there with children coming from sperm banks..

I would go ahead and have a baby with your "friend." No offence, but it is best not to wait any longer and miss out on an oppertunity to have a child. That way, bubs will still have 2 parents.

Well, 40 isn't too late, my mom had me when she was 40 and things are dandy:)

Start dating! Get to know lots of guys and put yourself on the market. Im sure you'll find Mr. Right if you look hard enough:)

suggest that if you don't do something now it will be too late, im not in favour of women who wait until they are in their late forties, some at least, not all, its because a baby is a huge step, demanding, and espeically financially, so go for it now, Mr right hasn't appeared, so you have to decide sooner than later.

my mum had a late baby and whilst he is adored was nearly the end for her, so try now