Can She Survive an arranged marrige?

It all depends on the personalities and attitudes (and values) of the couple and this too can change over a period of time.

Marriage is a commitment. Maybe in today's world it may not be the ideal thing.

The system -arranged or otherwise-only facilitates marriage. The success depends on the couple primarily and those around them (social support from extended families or close friends) to make it work.

A policy of give and take and reasonable adjustment as an attitude must be built into their personalities to say the least.

How these characteristics will be known about each other depends on the methods adopted before marriage to know about each other.

Nothing is guaranteed to be successful.

With divorce rates increasing I wonder if conventional marriage as a social system will ever survive in another 25 years!!

Best wishes

If she finds the right guy, then yes. IT will take a lot of work though. Indian men are used to their wives being submissive. IT's not free like it is in america. Even indian girls get a lecture from their moms. They tell 'em, u know, u've been pretty free in college, but now, u must put into practice what u saw and eventually helped me do at home. So instead of the girl waking up and dashing for class or whatever, she's gotta get up whenever her guy gets up, or even before so she can see him off to work. Then of course, even if she works, she's still gotta do most of the housework, etc, this is what most indian guys are used to. This is what they see their moms doing, n their sisters doing. U've gotta be happy about it too. Atleast that's how it is in the beginning. After u have kids or have been in the marriage a bit, if he loves u, he'll ease up on u. Oh, in the beginning, u must ALWAYS try to look hot. Not all glamed up with make up or anything, but u must style ur hair, n do bodily maintanence(get rid of unwanted things), u know, kinda look like u did b4 u were married.

After a while, if he loves u, he'll realize all ur efforts and let u relax a bit. And by that time, he'll have lived in US for a bit, so he'll see the culture. But if u try n b americanized from the get go, u'll ruffle his feathers for sure. If ur at his house, be on guard, because his family will become ur enemies quick if ur not careful. Be as indian as possible around them. Pray also, this will help, n if god melts his mind a bit, life will be easier for u, so he won't expect the same stuff from u always.

It's tricky for ameircan girls to marry an indian guy from india, w/o dating him for a long time, but it can be worked, it just takes honesty, communication, and commitment from both sides. Don't let ur inlaws get in when they're not needed. They love to do this, but stand ur ground, n let ur hubby know this too. Good luck. Most arrangements between US girls and indi guys don't work because these things arent followed, mostly by the guys, but all anyone can do is try.

Living happily in an arranged marriage?

What a joke.

It's 2008. Seriously.

well; i am indian, i was born in america, so i am totally americanized; it depends on the girl. i dont know if i can do it... maybe suggest the boy, let them be with each other for about 6-7+ months and see how it goes; if they like each other, that that is good, if not, then maybe an arranged marrige just is not right for her.

good luck!

I believe she can, if they are willing to work for it

Have you seen that movie "the wedding planner"? Well, in it this woman who was holding out for the kind of love her mom and dad had find out that theirs was an arranged marriage and that it took a long time and hard work for it to turn to love.

I guess my point is, marriage takes work. Hard work sometimes. And why you start a marriage isn't nearly as important as what you do in it and how you treat your spouse. Love is an action word. It requires something of you. It requires service. Lust, what most people call love, is fleeting. It can blindside us and then be gone. Love though is a choice that we make. And every marriage will have moments when one or the other doesn't even LIKE the person they are married to, but they work on it, they serve each other and they don't give up. That is, if they want the marriage to work.

Survive in an arranged marriage: Yes.

Live happily in an arranged marriage: No.

I'm indian n i have many cuzs who are totally americanized n living happily in a arranged marriage. I wud say yes!!

I would say yes. I have an indian friend in an arranged marriage and is very happy.

After marriage arranged and love marriage work on the same track and no difference .

well it depends if she will like the guy or not

usually in arranged marriages the couple has to get to know each other a little bit