Is there a way to get over an abortion?

I have been in your boat. I am so sorry you are going through this. You lost a life. Grieve. Don't forget about it. Don't try to forget about it.

A mother's instinct is usually right. Do you think it was a boy or girl? Name the baby, even though it will only be in your head and heart. It helps. It takes time to get over the emotions of it.

If you need help, see a psychiatrist. You lost a loved one, even though it was unborn. You can talk to your parents as well, especially if they don't understand why you broke up with the butt-head that made you have the procedure.

Good luck

I'm sure that you carry around a heavy burden due to the choice that you made. I'm sorry that you are hurting. There is no simple solution or answer to getting over something like that. Having an abortion causes more mental and emotional anguish than anything. It's guilt that you carry around and it just continues to eat at you.

My suggestion is that you start talking to someone. Go to counseling. A counselor is an impartial party. They will be able to help you sort through your feelings and help you to let go and move forward. Sometimes the hardest thing is to let go, especially in a case like yours. Letting go of what happened doesn't mean that you have forgotten your child. It just means that you are accepting what has happened.

Sometimes its easier to deal w/ your choices in the moment, rather than long term because you never know how things will effect you. Maybe you could try writting your baby a letter. I know it may sound dumb to some people, but it may be a way to make peace and get some closure. You hear about people making amends in letters when people are deceased in order to try and heal and move forward.

Good luck!

You really need to seek some counseling. The pain you're in is not going to go away by itself. I have a friend that had an abortion over 30 years ago. Very few people know about it. Once a year I sit with her while she cries for the baby she aborted. I wish I had tried harder to talk her out of it in the beginning, but I thought it was a personal choice and was ultimately her decision, so I stated my feelings and backed off. I feel a lot of guilt for doing that, but not near what she or you or anyone else that's been through this feels. Please seek some professional help before you let this consume you.

I have never been in this situation, but I know people that have. I don't think any of them ever really got over it. It's always there, it will be on your mind.

I would say maybe you should seek some counseling. Or maybe tell someone in your family for their support.

I wish there was something else I could tell you to help you out. The only other thing I could say would be to talk to a priest- or whoever you would go to in your own religion. Maybe going to confession and asking for forgiveness can make this situation a little more bearable.

You say you had your abortion when you were 19, but don't say how old you are now, so I don't know how much time has passed. I will say this, as someone who had an abortion when she was 17 ( I am now 32) that an abortion is something you will never get over, although over time it will not hurt as much.It is especially difficult to get over an abortion that you really didn't want to have in the first place. I really can relate to your story because mine is so similar. As soon as I told my boyfriend I was pregnant, he wanted me to have an abortion. My parents and nearly every adult in my life at the time said that if he loved me, he would never ask me to do something like that. I feel for you I really do and know exactly how you feel. Time heals, or at least makes wounds more bearable

You have to come to grips with the fact that it was your decision as well as his. No one can force you to have an abortion, but I'm sure it was easier at the time than dealing with him pressuring you. Also, you need to find someone close to you that you can talk to about this. It will help the healing process and get you through your tough times. You also need to pray and possibly seek professional counseling to get through it. I do wish you the best of luck.

Time will make some pain go away, but some will always linger. I would consider counseling, it often helps in situations like yours. Whats done is done and you cant take it back :( All you can do is focus on the future . GL

I can see that you are hurting. I would try to contact an after abortion support group or contact a friend that can help you get through this. Have you tried http://www.hopeafterabortion.com/ ? That might help. It is very good that you left that guy you were with. It was irresponisble and heartless for him to encourage you to abort your child. Remember, prayer always works. Talk it over with God.

Pray for peace and forgiveness.

Pray about it! The Lord can help you with anything. Give your worries to him and let him take care of it. He has a plan for you and that guy wasn't in it. your okay.