Tell me how to stop loving him. I left him because I can't choose between him and my sons. Am I wrong?

no you are not wrong. if he was violent once he will do it again. you made the right choice. only time will ease the pain of being without him. i wish i had more to tell you. but your babies always come first and if this man put his hands on them then you don't need him around.. HOORAY to you for being a good mom and getting out!

Your 18 year old had no business taking the money for gas and only telling you, especially if it was your husband's money. However, this does not call for physical violence.

You didn't say what the reason was for the never an I love you. What did you do.

You shouldn't have to choose between him and your sons. Are they his sons, too? After 3 years of marriage, I would still get some counseling. Usually when a person cannot tell you they love you, it is because you really did something to hurt them pretty badly.

i would do the same. Your kids always comes first. Also, he shouldnt even lay a finger on your child period. your son is a man now at 18 and doesnt need anther man bieng violent. It only takes one time. If you didnt leave, your boyfriend would probaably eventually do it again. Im glad you chose your kids over your boyfriend. I did the same recently so i can feel your pain. I still love my exboyfriend. We broke over two months ago over child support. If i would of stayed with him, i would of been broke b/c he didnt want to pay child support. Our relationshp wasnt the greatest anyway. Secondly, he started favoring our baby over my son. Its understandable but it really hurt my sons feeligs when he stopped paying att'n to my son all together. I made the right choice for my children. Now i get child support legally for my daughter and she is getting good care. My son doesnt have to see us quarrel anymore over money and my son can feel free to do as he pleases with his sister. Im also at peace now b/c i feel better and my kids are happie bc im happier. But i miss him and will lways love him. We have to think about our kids first.

Would not want to be in your shoes...best of luck.