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Will my passive toddler grow out of his "temperament?"?
I have a very loving 3 year old, who is very passive. The other little boys his age at daycare a wrestling around and being "boys" while my little boy just kind of plays by himself. I know periodically he plays with them, I just never see him being very aggressive (not necessarily in a bad way.) He loves doing boy things like basketball, baseball and things like that. When it comes to meeting new kids, he pretty much climbs my leg. It takes him a LONG time to warm up. I am a very social and assertive person so it's hard for me to grasp the idea of having a "shy" child. Is it possible that once he gets older he will grow out of his passivity? I don't want him to be a bully, I just want him to be more assertive/strong.
Does anyone have advice for a social butterfly Mom who has a super-shy passive child?
2 Answers
- Anonymous1 decade agoFavorite Answer
His temperament certainly will change. He is still so young!
I'd encourage him to play with the kids who are similar to him -- as in quiet, shy, etc. That might build up his self confidence and get him acclimated to being around people and building up stronger relationships with other kids. I can see how he might be overwhelmed or turned off by rowdy kids.
Also, there's really no reason why he should enjoy being rowdy or want to participate in rowdiness -- it's kind of silly to expect him to behave like a "boy." It's a meaningless designation. Personally, I think expecting boys to be rowdy and aggressive turns them into complete morons later on in life.
Socialization is a very long process. Accept him for what he is. I'm not saying you don't accept him; but you are wanting him to change. And he will.
- Anonymous1 decade ago
It may or it may not. In my family a lot of the kids were super shy when they were young, and some grew out of it, and some didn't. Maybe your son takes after your husband's personality more than yours?