Love triangle.., please help!!?

Hi Scarlett: My advise to you is to sit down with the 58 year old man..and tell him exactly how you feel about the situation. If you feel you want to be married then it's important that you tell him that. Yes he needs to think about his children...they are very important to him and you need to admire that. However he needs to be fair to you also..and if he marries you..then he has to make you just as important. I understand that you hurt the other man so make sure how you feel before you hurt him again. You sound like a nice person so I'm sure you will think this over and come to the right decision for yourself. Remember if you let a man treat you the way the 58 year old is doing..he will always do it..If you tell him that it's not acceptable and show him that you want to be treated with respect..he will do that too if he loves you. Good luck to you..and remember always you deserve the best..don't settle for anything less.

well, the truth is, you will never know what the 38 year old would be like after being with him for 3 years. you may spend a lot of time comparing the 2, which will cause a bunch of issues. if you are doubting this relationship, and you are not as happy as you want to be...then leave the guy you are with and go with the other one. his children are grown, and they havent shut him out of their lives yet, so why would marrying you make a difference. i can see where you are coming from. i would feel the same way. i would give him an ultimatum. either you prove to me you love me enough to get married, or i will have to move on. his answer will make it easier for you to make your decision. only you know how much you truly love this guy. if you feel in your heart it wont work then dont stick around. i dont know if its a great idea to move from one relationship to the next. rebound relationships rarely work, and the 38 year old will only get his heart broken again.

Well, if the 38 year old is still in love with you after you picking another guy and going three years with him, then he really doesn't need any promise ring to prove anything to you. All he has is lovee

I think you need to move on. If he's had 3 years to stand up for you and what he wants - he doesn't want the same thing you do.

That said, I would not run to the other man. You need some time out, some time alone to know your self better. Perhaps date some more.

Otherwise, you may make another mistake and we ain't getting any younger. :)

Good luck.

You followed your heart .... that's not a mistake. Now you just have more experience with the guy you chose & realize he wasn't the one afterall. Follow your heart again & try pursuing the other guy....there's no ring on your finger & no real commitment. That equates to no respect .... he might as well be saying he doesn't love you enough every day.

Find love where you can .

If marriage is your thing , then time to move on . If having a relationship that works , is your thing , then stop requiring your men to marry you .

If you feel strongly that you made a mistake then it's not too late to correct it.