i want to have kids around 19 but i want to be married first is that bad?

what's the rush??

you have your whole life ahead of you!

i'm 27 and have been w/ my husband since 17 (married at 23). We both were really excited at the thought of having kids starting at around 19 and really couldn't wait. we weren't trying, but i would have been so happy. especially since so many of my friends starting having kids around that age. we even talked about names.

well we decided to wait until after i was done with college. i'm soooo glad we did. i will graduate soon, but now that the "itch" has passed, we will probably wait another 5 years or so. my friends all love their kids, but many of them say they would have liked to have waited a little longer.

i think it's best to experience life and the world and enjoy each other as spouses and lovers so you can build a strong loving marriage that will be a good example for your children.

things will work out no matter what, but just think about it...

It is not bad to be married first before you have a kid, but I think 19 is young to have a child. If you feel you really want one and are ready for it then more power to you. I wouldn't do it only for the fact that kids take up alot of your life. Enjoy your young life first. I did and had alot of fun, and don't regret waiting for kids.

Is playing with guns bad?

Is playing with knives bad?

Is dancing with trains bad?

Is doing meth bad?

That is how I veiw having kids and being married at 19 is.

Grow up 1st. Gain some life experience. Date a few men. Live life. Find yourself. Have fun. Seriously...DON'T DO IT because I know that you will not be with him by the time you are 23.

You have not emotionally matured. Marriage and kids are not always a walk in the park....its hard and frusterating and somedays really hard.

I am 29 and I still hate having to get up at all hours of the night to attend to my kids.

You are far, far from being ready but go ahead and do it. You seem to know everything at 19.

Is having a child at 19 bad? Not necessarily...

Will you be financially independent at 19? A stable job with plenty of excess income to accommodate a child?Your own home with plenty of room for a child?The time and energy to invest into 18 years of raising a child? A stable home environment in which to raise a child?

I wouldn't have had a kid at 19 because I was dependent on my parents, and was in college, and was not ready to be a mother in general.

I wouldn't have gotten married at 19 (or now) because I would not want to commit to something that major that early on in life.

But these are very personal things! Everyone is different.

My mother had her first child at 19 and she is a great mom.

You have to think about what is fair to a child- that is what is most important. Bringing a child into the world that you cannot take care of would be terrible.

Being married before children is a good thing in my view. At 19, it is a bit young though Donielle. If your life expectations are to be married and a mom and all that goes with it, then fine, but at 19 you are still maturing. Personally I would wait until I was 25 or so, or until I had achieved my goals before settling down. If settling down is what you have in mind, then 19 is fine for it. It is not bad though. Good luck with your decision! I was married at 19 and we waited until we were together 3 years before we even tried. 14 years later we divorced. We were both too young for marriage and jumped in too fast. If I had waited for two years before I got married I would never have done it at all.

You'll be too young to have kids at 19-that's a hard road you have planned for yourself. You should start your life before you have kids-settle down in a job and a home with a guy then have kids-and when you just try to rush this deal because you have some kind of timetable in your head the result is just horrible-have watched it many times over.

What about school? What about a career? Do you have any plans for supporting your child and/or husband? Hopefully, getting knocked up isn't your only ambition in life.

How old are you now? Perhaps you should talk to an adult about your future plans. A parent, friend's parent, teacher, pastor or counselor could really give you some perspective.

If you still think you're ready for kids, take a few months & volunteer at a Boys & Girls Club. Get involved with kids so you can really see how much work is involved.

What is the issue about being 19? People hope to be married and have children as a result of that love. Placing an age limit on that is not realistic. Life is complicated enough without placing limits on life's events.

No. Not as long as you and your husband understand that you are committing to a life-long, irreversible responsibility.

And you'll have money to pay for:

Rent or mortgage

Heat

Electric

Water

Telephone

Health Insurance

Life Insurance

Car Insurance

Gas for car

Money to fix car

Renters or homeowners insurance

Food

Essentials for baby

Savings

Prescriptions

Also, you need to make sure your husband wants kids (DISCUSS this BEFORE you marry) and you decide if you are going to stay home (this means he has to have a great paying job with benefits.

Children deserve mature parents who are married and committed to the family. 19 is way too young to have a child and be married.

Slow down and explore life a little first.

Good luck.