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I was really offended by what someone said before class what could I have done or said?
I'm a senior in college not high school just to clarify. Although what I heard today was straight out of junior high.
Before lecture began in the small, quiet, nearly empty classroom two guys were making vulgar sexually explicit comments. I'm not talking PG-13, but violent and demeaning comments that were offensive to me as a woman.
It horrified me to think that I could possibly hear these kinds of remarks at an institution of higher learning. I felt embarrassed and naive.
There was one other girl who heard what was said and she responded to their comments with false nervous laughter.
I shot her a look, there is no way any women would be okay hearing what they said.
It was the equivalent of making a racist and violent comment knowing that two black men are present in the room aware that they can hear you but knowing they are outnumbered.
Should I have said something? What would you all have said? I'm still angry and want to take action. Do you have any ideas for what I can do?
7 Answers
- GEEGEELv 71 decade agoFavorite Answer
I think addressing them personally, at that time was your only option, since now it's a matter of your word versus theirs. I'm not sure I would have had the guts, at 20 or 22 to say anything but now, at 50, I'd likely say something to the effect of:
Guys, your comments are inappropriate in any context, and if you need to be told why, you are both idiots. Please change the subject or take your discussion out of this room.
- Anonymous1 decade ago
I would have turned around and told them to take their conversation somewhere private or not at all because it was offensive and demeaning. I would have told them I couldn't believe that was the highest level of intelligent conversation they could have, especially when they'd been accepted into an institution of higher learning. I also would have said if they keep up public comments like that, they would never gain anyone's respect and women probably wouldn't even consider dating pigs like them.
- 1 decade ago
It is hard to say, not knowing what was said but maybe what you did was the right thing. You had no way of knowing how these individuals would have reacted if you said something to them. The other option you could have used would have been to say something to the professor, preferably in private and let the professor handle it.
- ?Lv 41 decade ago
Just make a formal report in writing to the college.... That way the college will have them on file if they are serial offenders.
I doubt saying anything to them would have helped.
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- theacrobLv 61 decade ago
Saying how you feel--that the behavior of these men is utterly unacceptable--is only going to make you a target. Send an anonymous complaint to your student life department and to security, including the names of these hoodlums.
- Anonymous1 decade ago
If that ever happens again, tell them you are offended by that sort of crude vulgar talk and if they continue they will force you to go the principal and report them.
- 1 decade ago
I would have asked them not to use that language around you because you find it offensive.