Why does my husband's ex get away with keeping their son from us on the holidays?

We were going through something similar about 2 years ago with my stepson. He is only 4 yrs old. I came to the picture when he was 1 yr. old. It was hard because my husband is passive too. He didn't want the police or courts to get involved. I kept insisting and kept on telling him miserable I was when it came to visitation. Sometimes she wouldn't let us have him on out visitation days, she woudn't be home get it was pick up/drop off time, when it was cold she would send him in a diaper with a thing blanket, or shorts with no socks ant the list keeps on going. Oh and on fathers day she would only let my husband see him for like 4 hours. The court stipulated that the holidays would rotate etc. So once I talked to my husband he opend his eyes and he would do a report everytime she wouldn't follow the court order. We had numerous police reports then we went back to court and it was amazing how the judge went on my husbands side and she is somewhat better now. We are going back to court next year in January to make everything totally better! YEAH BABY!!!!!

what she is doing is contempt and if you take her back to court and tell the judge that he will not be a happy camper. She could be thrown in jail for her blatant disrespect of the judges rulings. Call her and tell her that she will be at home when you come to pick up his son or you will be going back to court on contempt charges and if she's in jail you will end up getting custody while she figures it out. Also the son is old enough to tell her what he wants to do and refuse to go. You need to be documenting everything she does and says for court. I would suggest showing up to to get an hour or so early so she can't run off with him. THis kind of thing always drives me crazy because the person she is hurting the most is her own son.

do no longer deceive her and say you're able to need him back and then happen previous due. which will come back to chew you in the **** and make you look undesirable even even with the undeniable fact that she's in the incorrect. you're able to be able to desire to pass %. him up and have a civil escort (the law enforcement officers there to make valuable each little thing is going ok) alongside with a duplicate of the courtroom order and have the law enforcement officers tell her that she would be in a position to could desire to be domicile at 8:30. in case you have joint custody, she isn't in any place to be negotiating the two and has no criminal precise to be supplying you with ultimatums. (yet on the grounds that your son is in simple terms 4, he rather would not could desire to be out until eventually 8:30 so ask to %. him up at 5 rather of 6?) I thoroughly understand your frustration on the grounds that i'm in precisely your comparable concern. in basic terms my courtroom order in basic terms lists the main holiday journeys so my exhusband says that Halloween and all the 'minor' holiday journeys are not in the visitation rotation. And that incorporates mom's Day.

Man, the toughest part is that you have no legal anything over him. So there is nothing that you yourself can do. It all has to be your hubby. And you can't make him do anything. I would say just try and talk to him and convince him that he shouldn't let her walk on him. He needs to go to court every time. Otherwise she's just going to keep pulling the same crap, cause she can get away with it... Good luck!

Your husband needs to go back to court to enforce the visitation. Otherwise you'll have to deal with his ex's b.s. Good Luck.

You are going to have to get the court involved again....You need to have them force her to compile with the previous court order, and unfortually if she does not then she will probably do some jail time....

That's very sad. I feel for your husband and you. It's amazing to me how some parents don't even realize how they are hurting their children by acting like immature twits themselves. Hopefully, some day his ex will grow up.....but I doubt that seeing it's been seven years and counting.....

he is 11 if he wants to be with you guys he would be he obviosly wants to be with his mom. when he was younger it was a diiferent story but this is how it is now. I was supposed to spend 3 days with my mom 4 with my dad but at about 10 i just stayed at my dads all week. Its up to him

You need to get a better Lawyer and let him hash out the details with hers. If you have the Law behind you, She has to comply to it.

Till your husband gets aggressive, I'm afraid there ain't much to be done.