We really need help! How to help my brother?

"This is not an easy situation and I could sense it is creating a big problem in the family. I think your brother is hurting and is feeling depressed. This is the time when he is really in need of your support although it appears that he wants none of it. So, if I were you, I stay close to him. and be his ally along with a lot of patience.

Here is an excerpt from an article that I read - "Higher" Education. I hope it gives light to the answer to your question.

"It is vital for the advice not to appear in the form of "Do's and Dont's", but to cause the child to understand by himself, within himself, what he needs to do. That way, he won't feel that a certain process is being forced upon his life, but will feel that the idea of change developed independently within him.

Another interesting point is that within the depths of his heart, each child longs for a true friend. One of his greatest hopes is to discover true friends, even in siblings and in his parents. Deep in his heart, a child is ready for such a relationship with his parents. Therefore, in order to create a true dialog with children, parents need to learn how to become a friend and a big brother. He should try to create mutual trust which is not based on honor or control, but on true friendship and partnership towards the attainment of any common goal, one which is based on unconditional love."

Here is the link http://www.kabbalah.info/engkab/life-love-family/k...

Good Luck!

"Out of control" can mean a lot of things. Without really knowing some details it's hard to offer any suggestions. If he's completely disrespectful I'd suggest your mother contacting some juvenile detention center or the local police to see what she can sort of threaten him with if he doesn't start listening to her or following her rules. If they can't help, I'm sure they can make some other suggestions.

well aprt from the divorce its his age too. children are the most obnoxious at this age. trust me i know i have 3 younger brother and one of them is currently 13. he gives me hell and he like ur brother was a great child.

try talking to im even though this wont help much, try to do things tht he wants to do so that when he feels comfortable he will open up to you and tell how he is feeling. also try to explain how pain his behaviour is causing you and your mom and he loves you he will try. but i will be honest and say this it will not be easy

A lot of times the way kids react to divorce is by acting out the way your brother seems to be doing. I'd say counseling is probably your best bet.

Divorce is hard and may be he's angry about the break up, he's also going through puberty at the same time. May be he needs a couple therapy sessions, in fact you should all go.

your mother better stop acting like the victim and start acting like a parent before the brother winds up in jail with the parents to thank for it. as for you, you can't do anything, unless what he is doing is illegal. fighting, drugs, drinking. then you should call the police. that may wake mom and dad up.

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Contact a Social Worker; NOW!!! Before it gets any worse and you wind up bailing him out of jail and defending him in court.

What do you mean out? Throw a thirteen year old out in the street in winter?

Gee I wonder why this "family" fell apart.

You don't throw away people, especially family.

I gotta feeling your just like your dad.

Maybe counciling...especially if ur parents are divorsed...

or have a nice conversation with him telling him rules]

Hope it helps good luck!