my gf is going through a lot of stress with life. how do i help her?

I highly doubt you wanna hear an answer from me, but Im answering anyways. Don't do what I did, even tho I was limited my an injury, I could've helped her more with little things, and I tried to help with the bigger things around the house the best I could. But, the communication was lost, and the arguing got worse and worse. I know that she just wants help with the things that are stressing her out... not just the money end of the house, but fixing it up. She wants someone that will listen to her, and discuss things, work them out with her, not argue about how she feels. As for running way, that certainly wouldn't help....She needs stability, love, and understanding again... which I could no longer give her...and tho we can never be together again, Im sorry for how it ended between her and I... and I truly just want to see her happy again. And you can do that, just listen, listen, and listen more...and discuss, discuss, and discuss more, before arguing, no matter how badly you want to.

I feel same way as all do except for one answer , for that is "giving up on someonespecial in your life", for your gf is my friend too, and shes an awesome person and doesnt need to be "abandoned again" by anyone, or "cheated on by anyone", or " taken from", shes had enough done to her to last a lifetime, a lifetime of pain, until you came into her life, I do know this about her, She needs you more than ever now, and also needs your understanding and emotional support,, Now that you two have united and are together now, its tough situation to go all way accross the United States from where youre used to living and movin all way on other side where she lives, its gotta be tough on you also...I dont blame you, but dont give up, give her mainly emotional support, take her out alot like youre already doin, sweep her off floor w/ a basic promise ring, the one you were talking to me about, always, show respect and love , show her you care by wrapping your arms around her and truly loving her and always know shed never, never do anything to hurt you and she knows deep, deep in her heart that you dont mean to hurt her either....Situations are comin to an end, with her divorce, and possible foreclosure on her house..Its a "tough and rough world" out there, compared to when our grandparents , and parents were kids and "our age", Just always think before you "speak" and Think before you do, for that will always get you in trouble w/her, and I know shell do same for you...I could say so much more, you know all that already, you tc/friend...I miss flirting on here w/ you, my best friend has you now, just keep close to God and her and you wont miss...;)

"i feel that maybe i should be out of the picture because sometimes that maybe i am not doing enought."

That will definately not help or contribute.

Let her know that you are there for her, for whatever she needs (emotionally wise). Don't give up on the situation, no matter how dire it seems. Everyone has their own way of dealing with problems; make sure you sort it out in a positive way. Be patient with this also, because it might take some time.

Help her out when needed. Maybe give her a gift certificate to a spa or get her nails done and watch the kids so she can go. Just be there when she needs you. You are a good man, tough situation to be in.

just support her.

If you are not doing enough, do more.

What are friends for? Right now, you call her your G/F. But do you want it to be more? Then YOU need to "be more". She's got stress? Lighten the load. Keep it simple. It doesn't cost a lot to ease another person's burden. Just Love. Keeping love doesn't do anybody any good, You need to give it away for it to have value. Go generate some value in your life & hers.

Just supporting her is great. Make dinner. Rent a movie for the kids to watch so she can relax. (Yep, you get to watch the kiddos...and the movie. Choose wisely. Wall-E isn't bad.) Bring popcorn.

If she wants you around, then stay. If you want to. But don't lead her on if you don't. Precarious situation...I won't lie. But if you like/love her, it'll be worth it when she gets through it.

Honey, you already know that no matter what happens around us , there will always" Be an Us", I love all my boys and you and my mom w/ all my heart , for that will never change, Others can Judge all they want to , about " us" and guess what, Im used to it...Dont ever give up on somethin in your life that finially you did "find right one" we talked for seven mos in IM Yahoo, met in here., and we finially met in person this last May, It was Awesome., to finially get together, then we both had to wait another two mos til we could be together...I love you and always will no matter what you decide to do...you will always "be in my picture", and in "my heart", and dont forget when I talk about me Im also talkin about my boys "hearts too" for they love you , all of us truly love you...you are my best friend..you do more than you know for me , already, hell you except I have an ex, and you offer to help him in certain ways, also, that takes courage and guts to do that for me, you dont have to ever do anything you dont want to do..I cant wait till this is all over w/ so that we both can resume our lives together..theres no need to even stress out anymore.."easier said than done" I just wished my ex understood, I still care about him, Ive moved on and have forgiven him for what he has done..We all have "life instances" and things take time to heal, just love me, honor, cherish ..I will always do same for you..for you are love of my life...Im thankful that you have so much love in your heart for me....and my family..I am overwhelmed, but guess what??, Youve been through it thick n thin w/ me, as my best friend, my partner in love, and by myside...We both will get through this together, for "Two is Better than one..." quote from a book that is around world...ty, and all my buddies in here tc/ missed ya all...the real friends that have helped me also through this. God Bless you all..in here..YA Rocks!!;)

your a great guy.. so to answer your question. the easy way just help her with the house work.. wow i would like a friend like you.. and play with the kids .. give her a break.. take the kids to a park. or something you. can think of.. have a b.b.q. out side..kids will love it.. play games .. good on you mate

Maybe u should take her to a romantic dinner and bye the keids some good fitting gifts.And since black friday is coming up its a good time to bye nice things

juz give her some time..dont leave her because ur supposed to b wit her thru good and bad..show her support and try not to stress her out since she already has soo much stress. goodluck