Why do "ex's" feel compelled to stalk, act malicious and vindictive, and jeopardize other potential partners?

Because they have no self-esteem. They are cowardly BULLIES who believe that, by being tough, they'll COMPEL you to return to them. They are under the mistaken impression that they OWN YOU.

They also have ZERO social skills, and can't maintain relationships for long. Further, they're likely products of highly dysfunctional childhoods, likely coming from homes with "high drama" and no small amount of domestic violence.

They're also dangerous control freaks. They sometimes can and do cause real harm to people. It's best to address this unacceptable conduct AGGRESSIVELY.

Don't ever put up with that kind of behavior, ever. Not even for a second. Lay down the law, and then follow through with your threat--which should sound something like "Leave me alone or I'm going to the cops--I MEAN IT."

Go file a complaint with the police at ONCE, if you continue to be pestered, and get a restraining order. You MUST follow through. Don't ever think "Awww, she won't do anything that awful," or "He'd never really hurt me" because that's BS. Hell hath no fury like anyone scorned, if they've got a twisted psychological makeup.

Tell the police that you fear for your safety and the safety of your friends. Sometimes, just the ACT of getting the cops involved cools the ardor of some jerk who thinks he or she owns you.

Also, check your vehicle to make sure you don't have an unwanted GPS stuck on it on the underside so the ex can track you. If you find one, remove it and place it on, oh, a tractor trailer truck or a taxicab--it'll drive the "Fatal Attractionista" crazy trying to find you.

Good luck. Don't put up with that crap. REALLY.

I have dated many people and can't say I've ever had an ex stalk me or try to be vindictive or alienate a new partner. Man, you must be a really hot guy who really knows how to piss off his girlfriends if they are stalking and being vindictive!

because they have issues - they havent grown up yet, and realized that yes - the world at large, is OUT of their control...

including their ex partner and their life!

crazy ex's like this feel the need to control, and are not happy with themselves, so the closest person to them, is their ex - usually some sort of pushover/easily manipulated person that can't say NO, F-OFF!

Its up to the EX (your partner) to put their foot down, and not let this person in their life anymore, or else the drama will continue. And it will affect your relationship.

Because they are not over you and think that if they cant be with you then nobody should be able to have that chance either.. They are probably thinking that you don't need anyone els but them.. They stalk you because they like you so very much that they want to know what your doing, where your going, who your are with and ect.. They think that if you don't want to be with them then they will find away for you to come back to them.. Good luck trying to get rid of them..

>best answer<??

You met my ex-wife, eh??

My sympathies.

They are just jealous of the idea that some other person can bring out the good in you better than her/him.

Yes i would most def. have to say Jealousy plays a big part in their acts. it mainly means they still love you.

they feel possessive towards the person because they were once theirs so they get jealous of the person being with some one else

Jealousy. The childish urge that if one cannot have something, no one else should enjoy it either.

Jealousy would be my best guess. They are franked up at times though. For sure.

As the saying goes... You always want what you can't have!

and

If I can't have you no one can!

Its ridiculous but that seems to be the way it happens.