Is it true that single people that want to adopt only get to adopt kids with some form of disability?

Nope, not true at all from what I've seen. Given the fact that a single parent would have to continue working I can't see where a special needs child would be matched with someone like that since they would most likely need more care then they could provide or arrange for without causing extra stresses for all involved.

I've known, through training and my dealings with the foster care system, single people who have either fostered or adopted special needs children or non special needs children and it's all depended upon their individual situations.

No. Any prospective adoptive parent can adopt a child with disabilities more quickly, because there are fewer families requesting those kids, while those wanting a child who is believed to be healthy and developmentally typical may have to wait a little longer. It has nothing to do with marital status.

However, you have to understand that any child can turn out to have disabilities and special needs, even if they outwardly appear healthy. If disabilities would be a deal-breaker for you, you should not adopt, and should probably think twice about having a biological child.

Ok, I have never heard this but must comment on anyway!

What makes my child "normal"?

I am a married woman who has adopted a child and would really like you to explain more on what you think is normal?

It would have been normal for him to be raised by his parents and to be around people of his heritage and his first family. Then and maybe only then would his disability (behavior problems) be a thing of the past~

No, this is not true. Just because you are single / married or whatever doesn't deem the "type" of child you can adopt.

First Pick (blech) - ooo, pick me - ooo pick me (jumping up and down)

Not hardly. But since money talks and publicity walks, look at Madonna. At Angelina Jolie. At Rosie O'Donnell. At many others with the money and fame to get what they want. None of the children these women adopted were disabled. Disadvantaged - yes. Disabled - no. I know of two single people with adopted children. One male - one female. They had to fight to get to adopt, since adoptions and courts favor only two parent families. Single parents need lots of money and a really good attorney, plus a life-style beyond any reproach. The courts now look at all of that.

All adoptable kids have some disability -

In order to be available for adoption they have lost their whole family. That in itself is NOT "normal."

No way, where did you hear that?

My friend is adopting her third foster child.Surprisingly, all three of these children have very mild emotional trauma and no medical issues.She doesn't have a spouse and doesn't ever want one.

Ummmmm, no.

It's all based on what you as a PAP are prepared to take on as far as disabilities or "special needs".

Nobody gets "first pick" of the kids at Adoptees R Us.

No, that makes no sense. Why woudl they specialize children with higher needs to a one parent family. Each decision is based on its own merits (or lack thereof)

dont know. but that wouldnt make sense considering the fact that children with disabillities are much more difficult to care for than kids that dont have any disabillities. i would think that it would be better for there to be two parents with a disabled child.

"normal" goes out the door once the adoption is final, as far as that kid goes.

And yes, shiny new perfect babies go to married couples first. I mean, married couples can love that kid twice as much, a far as a social worker goes, right?