why am i so jealous of the way that my son is with my mom?

grandmas is the fun one...its nothing against u he loves u he just knows when she comes home he can get away with things

My daughter is like that with her Grandma and Aunt. I don't really like it much anymore just because it is so hard to control or punish her when they are over. I couldn't imagine what you are feeling like having to put up with it daily!!! It might be a good idea to take your son on a small vacation for a couple of days, without your mom. Preferably somewhere with a water park, zoo, etc. You might also want to give him a little treat when you come home. Nothing big, but maybe a small bag of m&m's, or some animal crackers, etc. Something that will make him more excited to see you.

You should really tell your mom how you feel about this. Your mom might need to back off and let you and your son have the quality time you need. It is a good thing that your son does feel comfortable with your mother, but it seems like it has gone to far.

Haha my daughter is the same way, I had her when I was 16 so I lived with them for a while also. She looovvvess grandma. Whenever we go back to visit, she is attached to her.

As bad as it may make you feel, take advantage! Let him love grandma, it can give you a break and every mommy needs a break. Just make sure she isn't spoiling him, that's the only thing you really need to worry about. Don't worry, he knows you're his mama. You don't always like your mom either, right? Nobody does, all the time. Haha.. My daughter is the same way though, gets very excited when grandma walks thru the door. All I can really say is try to accept it and enjoy what little breaks and peace you can get, motherhood can be hard but he will always know you're his mama. Once you move out it will start to change as well.

Honestly, there's not much you can do to reverse this problem without moving out. If you work and he stays home with grandma, then that is probably where the problem generates. Not only does grandma probably spoil him, but he may see her more. When grandparents and grandchildren live together it can cause serious problems. The grandparents want to spoil them like all grandparents do, but when they around the child that much they need to be more of a parental figure than spoiling them. It's ufortunate because I know that all grandmas want to spoil their grandchildren, but when exposed to them that often, for them to spoil them is unhealthy. Honestly, the best solution would be to move out, but if that's not an option right now, then I suggest speaking to your mom about it. Just explain the situation to her. I also agree with the idea of spending more quality time with your daughter WITHOUT grandma.

I was in the same situation as you. I had my son when I was 16 so I was living with my parents. We moved out when he was 2 but he has always been super close to my mom. He still is and he even acts differently when we go to her house for the weekend. It has always been upsetting to me but I just try to keep in mind that many kids don't get to know or get close to their grandparents and that he is lucky to have my mom. Good luck and I hope things get better for you!

It seems children have a closeness with older relatives because they are more interesting and less stern with them. Grand mothers and Fathers seem to be more patient and giving of themselves. They take time to laugh and cuddle with little ones.

There will come a time when they just bond and relax together. Then there is a time when the child bonds with the parents. you probably call your mom and pop by those names. Well I think the child get confused and just thinks of you as his but he thinks of the older parents as mom and pop too.

Soon he'll get used to the fact that you are the mom of him and address his attention to you. Right now they spend more time with him and he is close to them because of it .

My son is almost the same way. My mother lets my son get away with murder in her house. And plus she is granny. Does your mom treat him different then you do? You may spank where she doesn't. Alot of kids will favor the person more that doesn't discipline.

This is a common issue, and it's exaggerated by the fact that you guys live together. My advice is to spend some quality time with him. Once a month or so let him pick out something he wants to do with you.

Don't be jealous, there are several little ones out there who have no grandmothers, just be glad your son does and enjoy it while you can. I have three boys, my mother lives 198 miles away and NEVER sees her grand sons, heck she doesn't even know them at all. Thank goodness my children have their granparents on their fathers side.

Could it be because Grandma lets him get away with things that Mommy doesn't? If that is the case, I would talk to your mom about it and let her know that she needs to help with discipline.