What do girls mean when they say "I want you to be more controlling in bed"?

She wants you to take charge.

I feel like most of the answers have hit it square on. In most cases a guy in a relationship could physically dominate the girl. Meaning in a cage fight if you were both trying your hardest, you could win- yes? What she is wanting you to do is prove that to her. Having a powerful man is sexy. So throw her around a bit, use your strength, your physical advantage to put her where you want her, make her feel as though the night is going the way you want it to go and even if she tried, she wouldn't be able to do anything about it. What makes it even better is that while you are making all the calls you are doing it with her in mind- whether that means ******* her so hard that she feels like the most desirable thing on the planet or that every time you push her you catch her just before she hits the bed and slowly lower her down so she feels like you would never actually hurt her because she is so precious to you . . . well either way its a nice feeling

She's telling you to become a man and take care of business. Not just in bed but in real life situations, That normally means that, ok. Say you and her were in Blockbuster, And you all split ways for a minute. Then some big muscular guy tries to hit on her, and you walk over to see what's going on, Then the guy spits on you!! What are you going to do? Sit there like a wuss, or punch his ******lights out. Your girl will be there watching to see what happens and you better not lose. Second. That also means you need to take care of your real life situations, she's linking that to your success in life. Get it right, or she'll be gone to the next loser with an real attitude. Hope I wasn't too harsh.

It means she thinks you are lame in bed, and she hates having to take charge and do all the work herself.

Relax a little and show her what YOU want. Even be a little dominating, that can be really sexy too.

wow first thing to do is get a safe word a word that means stop or no the but not the word no or the word stop i use the word Purple

she wants you to tell her what to do not ask and throw her around a bit and get rough not silly rough but strong be a bit forceful and don't take No for an answer always remember the safe word in case she starts to feel to intimidated always have a back up plan is my motto

I think what she wants is for u to simply have ur way with her...like in the ''movies'' so to speak..take her ..lay her or throw her on the bed (depends on what ur into) begin to undress her as u caress and kiss her all over....take her hand and put them on you...wherever u may want them then she'll just get so turned on she might just flip u over and attack u out of excitement!! (in a good way of course)

She wants you to tell her what to do, try things like pin her hands down to the bed and kiss her passionately etc, act as if you're so into her that you're desperate to have her, basically wear the pants in that particular situation, and be a bit firmer in your touching or holding, grip her hips tighter, thrust harder etc

They want you to take control. Give them orders, tell them to get in positions. Pick them up, move them into positions, hold them, etc. They just want you to physically be in control.

Take control, they want to be dominated. But not forced!

don't be overly forceful. personally...i love it when my husband presses me up against a wall and kisses me...makes me feel irresistible. pick her up and carry her to the bedroom. when you're at a party, grab her *** and tell her you can't wait to take her home. flat out tell her that you want her right there, right then. take control and make the first move.

They want you to be more aggressive about what you want from them sexually. Most people do not want to have to take charge all of the time. You need to take the lead role sometimes.