how do you solve a daughter and stepmother problem ??

Its hard to deal with a stepmother at first I know, but first of all just think of her as a female figure head, when you say stepmother you think of a replacement which I know irratates alot of offspring. Just give her a chance. I always find a direct approach is best, it makes the other person think and you make them address their attitude. Just say to say "Jane" "why do you not like me?" Now she is going to be stunned and I bet she will turn things around. No one likes to be the bad guy. It also could be she is jealous of your mother so be the bigger person and let it go but address it once and then try to override her attitude.

There is an unwritten dislike in a step relationship. One or the other of the two involved is either jealous, feels that they are not the mother, or the natural child, and has an attitude about doing parent-like things. Your father is trying to build this relationship and doesn't understand the animosity that is there. Next time you are sent to her by your father, explain to her that your dad wants you to ask her and that you aren't any happier about it than she is, but if she could assist you, it would make things much easier. Then the two of you need to explain to your dad that he is putting both of you in a difficult situation. I wish you luck.

can you maybe be more specific, seems like you don't get along i can relate to that, i don't get along with my step mother either. So i pretty much ignore her, if i have a problem i ask my mom i hate my stepmother and after i get out of the house i want nothing to do with her, as for you i would try and maybe talk to her but this is how most stepmothers are they don't see how bad they really treat us!

Communication always works. Do you have personal issues with your step-mother that would cause her to react with an attitude? If so, maybe you & her need to resolve your differences. Being a step-parent can be a difficult task because often enough, the step-kids are disrespectful & blame the step-parent for their parents not being together. And often enough the birth parent (in your case, your mom) can interfere by making comments and accusations that are uncalled for. If this is happening in your family life, quite simply, it needs to stop at once.

I am a step-parent, I have 2 adult step-daughters & their mom is constantly interfering and it does make things more difficult than it needs to be.

Maybe your dad sends you to your step-mom because it's an uncomfy issue for him to discuss with a daughter or maybe he feels a need to try to force you & her to bond. I don't know.

Good luck to you & your family.

Mary in Camden, MI

Ask her why she seems like she doesn't want to help you and let her know that you did try to ask your dad and he sent you to her. I would also ask my dad why he wont help with a problem, but sends you to her. As a parent, I know sometimes it's frustrating because we are so busy and have so much going on, but all parents should make the time to help their children. I'd tell my dad that I need his help and let him know that it's important that he be there for you. Let him know that you need him. It's easier for some men to let a woman handle a girl's problems, but that shouldn't be an excuse. He should listen to you and try to help you.

Explain to your dad that you feel more comfortable talking with him and that you would really appreciate his opinion on solving the problem. Don't tell him you feel she has an attitude, just tell him you would rather have his imput.

how would you solve a daughter and mother problem?! ! ! the problem about girls and women in general is that they care too much about the simplest details, this include both the stepmother and the daughter, both are females ;) , so the solution is by taking less care about silly details, define rules and orders for each one rights and duties, and avoid direct contact as much as possible, it is very nice that each one know his rights and duties, and do whatever she have to do by herself, avoid contact as much as you can...

Wild, sit your dad down and tell him that you would like him to work it out with him this time. I think he does that because he is catch up in doing something else. Just simply remind him that it will make you feel better if her does it this time.

Give her a beautifully illustrated picture book of Cinderella or Snow White and see if she gets the message.

maybe dad doesn't feel comfortable around you talking about something a women can handle. please try to be kind and considerate with your stepmom, maybe she has somethings going inside of her head too and she is afraid to let anyone know. or maybe the holiday seem a lil bit lonely to her. if she won't talk to you find a girlfriend or someone who you knows you can trust to listen to you. and discuss it with them. if that don't work, just pray and ask god to just let your step mom come out of her silent mode and talk with you its worth the try. be bless/ and be ever encouaged.