Can a marriage survive an abortion?

A marriage / relationship can survive 'an abortion'. it depends on how much you both want to save the relationship. I agree totally with you that a good dad is about more than taking them to the cinema and mac d's or wherever. Don't tolerate his rudeness just because his ego has had a bit of a knock and the fruits of his loin will no longer populate the earth. You sound pretty clued up. It was your decision it is your body it is up to you what you do with it. Very best of luck to you.

First of all i want to say that if you didn't want to have kids, you should have talked to you husband about it before. If you do not like the way he is with his children then why don't you tell him how you feel. If he is upset that you won't have his baby, why don't you tell him what needs to change before you willl have it. Maybe he doesn't understand why you won't have his baby, it's a little bit offensive when the person you are suppose to love forever refuses to have your child. Maybe he feels hurt.

Second of all. There are a million people in this world who want children,and can't. Having an abortion just because you didn't want the baby to have a dead beat dad is a poor excuse. At least the child would have a dad.

So to answer your question. The marriage is headed for divorce unless both of you can start communicating better. Losing a child is a very tough thing. My husband and I had a miscarriage and I didn't think it would ever be the same between us. You need to have a talk with your husband. Like now.

Sweetie you are NOT wrong in any way shape of fashion. As a GOOD parent(which you are and want to be) you WANT more for your children and there is NOTHING WRONG with that. Actually that is EXACTLY what a PARENT is supposed to do. A GOOD parent should and DO want more and better for there child. So you are doing right but choosing NOT to have any kids with him if he is a dead beat... But on the other foot... PREVENT pregnancy if you ALREADY KNOW THIS... dont get pregnant JUST to have a abortion the baby didnt ask for that... So if you know he is a dead beat and you DONT want to have kids with him then take precautions AGAINST that happening( GET THE 5 YEAR BC SHOT) then you have NO worries.... And you wont have to go through a UNNECESSARY pregnancy or ABORTION...

And IF you think that he is MAD now because you DONT want to have his kids then WHAT do you think he will BE and DO if he found out that you DID get pregnant and then KILLED HIS BABY... He would be FURIOS SPITE you even MORE and maybe even LEAVE you, and I think you already KNOW that so PREVENT all of that stress and drama in your life use BC and call it a day... No pregnancies, NO ABORTIONS, and you and your husband can live happily ever after, GOOD LUCK...

If these are the true thoughts you already have about your husband, it would seem that this marriage is way off track already, and has been for a while. If it's not important that you ever have children, then get on an effective birth control. If you do plan to have children and you KNOW that it's not going to be with this particular guy, then why drag out the inevitable?

Good luck with whatever you choose....

In your words: "I just can't live with knowing that my child would've had a dead beat dad."

How can you live with knowing you ruined your child's chance at life? There are so many things that are worse than a dead beat dad and it doesn't set one's life up for failure.

The fact is, if you have sex ( married or not ), you take a chance of getting pregnant. It's extremely irresponsible for an adult to have sex, get pregnant, then abort the baby.

That is a moral question only he can answer. Telling him you don't want to have his children was about the worst thing you could say to a man. The only thing that could be worse would be to tell him you cheated and he has been raising some other mans kid.

Good luck with your marriage. You certainly need it with your understanding of the male psych.

Is this hypothetical or are you pregnant and planning one? If it's hypothetical - don't cross that bridge until you come to it. If you are pregnant - you have to make the decision that you feel is best for you, the child and then your husband last. You may want to try a long lasting birth control to avoid pregnancy altogether...(IUD or something similar - implantable...)

If you are already pregnant, don't punish the child you and your husband created because you don't want him or her to have a deadbeat dad. You are going to kill your baby because of your own irresponsibility. They do have things called birth control that PREVENT pregnancy if you do not want it.

I hope that you didn't already get one...because I know that if I had an abortion that wasn't performed to save my life, I would have a tough time dealing with the fact that I murdered my innocent child.

Did you discuss any part of this before you married the man? Good grief, woman. The "my body my choice" thing is from feminazis. You might want to look at the success rates of their marriages and parenting (if they ever did it).

Sheesh. Good luck, you'll need it.

You get my tongue lashing of the day.

I had a son with a "dead beat dad" and he's the only good thing that came out of that marriage justifying the time and effort I put into that marriage.

My son is my world. And I would kill myself before I would have killed him.

I think you should have approached him, and gotten his side of you having an abortion. Even though hes a bad father now, you could have talked to him and yah could have made a decision for him to change his ways together. Im sorry to say, but your marriage may suffer.