Please help what should my son do? 2nd post?

Pregnancy is not a handicap, she can get a job to help out. As far as the father goes, well let him have his way until you can muster the proper way to handle this. DO NOT give the daughter one more dime, you tell your son to pay him in money orders or you write a check, but document every dime handed over. Set yourself down to a good Attorney and pay child support through the court. This girl is just a baby and your son is very fortunate not to be in jail right now. He needs to break this off while he's still on the up side. Good luck

There is such a thing as family court. Find it in your area. The parents are not leading by example very well. Your son should have it legally determined what he can afford to pay and when (also, if he is the father of this child). That is not the same thing as whether he has had sex with her or whether he is the most probable father. Is he trying to support the pregnancy or the girl? Such fine distinctions need to be made. The medical bill is yet to come.

Her father is angry and frustrated. Your sons' contribution pales in the sight of someone that has a shop. He will never come up to this mans' expectations but he does not have to suffer humiliation because of it.

Good, both minors realizes living together worsens the situation.

It doesn't matter how you cut it, only time will mature the children. Family court will protect them from decisions that they cannot fulfill.

As for both parent groups it will provide civil access in a respectful environment that issues may be resolved.

You can not deal with children as if they are adults. You really don't have maturity here

It sounds like the dad has been taking the money your son has been giving the daughter and wants more then your son is able to give.

If your son feels threatened by this man by all means get a restraining order but realize in doing so your son cannot go near this mans house even to see his girlfriend.

My best advice is you and your son go to family court and petition the court to visitation rights of his unborn child if he doesn't want to have a battle after the birth, agree in writing to the child support which should remain the same or be less due to his wages, that way the father can't demand more money. This may have the effect of the father agreeing to let her move as he will be legally be responsible to support his daughter which he apparently only wants to do if there's something in it for him

Doesn't sound like a good situation. Doesn't sound happy for your son, for her, or for the baby. Or you.

I don't know what the laws are in your area or what help is available, but I'd sure get in touch with some agencies, a domestic violence place (especially since he's threatened your son and you're worried about the girl and your grandchild), or someone for some help, advice, and suggestions as to what you all can do.

You can't make a good, informed decision without some facts.

I can understand the father being upset by his daughter's pregnancy, but it doesn't sound like he's making good decisions about it and he's bound and determined to call all the shots, in anger, no less. Doesnt' sound like he's being reasonable.

You son may be responsible for child support, but it sounds like he's willing. I don't know that he should be helping to better her whole family's situation, though. The courts might set a much different amount than her father is.

There might even be a way for them to get help starting out a life on their own.

If you get the courts or some agencies involved, they might have more fair ideas about the welfare of the child, the mother, and more realistic expectations of your son. I should hope.

Good luck.

This post is very disturbing. From your post it seems the gf's father is more concerned about money and control. Your concern seems to be about your son. There is a baby coming and everyone is losing sight of this fact. It is not wise for you to speak with this father as it could potentially be a dangerous situation. You need to take pre-emptive action and file in family court to assert your grandparent's rights and your son's paternal rights. The courts will send advocates out to gauge the households and the occupants. It will make a determination in the best interest of the child. If the gf's father is on probation it will be a consideration by the court and will be a point in your favor. You really need to start re-focusing your attention to this innocent child.

Wow mom... you are supportive of you son.

The conversation about safe sex is moot. It's done.

However, I see your son being responsible and making effort. He's being a stand up man.

The girls father is angry, and perhaps he's feeling justified that his little girl is preggers. But that's life. Is your son's father available to stand with your son to prevent the bullying?

Secondly, you ought to consider legal counseling. At this point of time, the girl is a minor and despite the pregnancy, has a right to forbid anyone to come in contact with his daughter. You need to find out the legal rights your son has for his child.

From now on, no more cash. Do things where there is a paper trail. Checks, money orders... and keep receipts. Your word may be good to friends and family but in court, and with the girl's bully father, it's meaningless.

As to the threats on your son's life, YES, follow up with a legal complaint. Go to the local DA's office and file a complaint.

Wow, it's too bad this guy is such a jerk to your son. So many boys(men) don't have anything to do with the girl after she becomes pregnant. The girls parents should be grateful your son had helped so much. It isn't your sons responsibility to pay for their daughters lunches and clothes! I would get a restraining order from this guy. Is their any possibility the girl could move in with you and your son? She could get emancipated from her parents so they couldn't hassle her. I believe she could get on state aid at that point. It sounds like you raised a good boy, who takes care of his responsibilities. The baby would probably be better off in your house. Best of luck to you and your son.

well...i would say that you should personally take her to go get medicade...and then file a lawsuit against her dad...he is threatening to kick her out...wont let her see her boyfriend...and you can vouch for the sanity of your son...basically she sounds like me...i was scared of my parents and would do anything they said...but im not pregnant...im 17...and am engaged to my fiance..who is 19..ill be 18 on May 9th...when is she turning 18? Before the baby will be born? Her parents can make her not see your son...so im thinking that the only way things could be worked out is by going to the court and proving that he is not a suitable parent...Are they going to keep the baby? I think that they could if thats what they both wanted...but they would have to apply for welfare...you cant always give them money...email me and tell me more...id like to talk more about this...kerr_star101

sounds like he wants to use that money for himself and not her. since he moved into a house he might not be able to afford that money most likely goes straight to him for bills. he only wants him to move in for the money but either way he has a right to see his child that's for sure. even if it isn't until she gives birth he will still have a right to see the baby. they could always wait until she turns 18 and move in together. i know it's hard to stand up to a father who's a jerk sometimes but it sounds like she really needs to. i think you all need to sit down and talk about it calmly. your family and the other family. i know he's upset and all but we can all tell he really wants that money from your son for himself. he doesn't even need to give her that much a week.

You may not want to hear this but, the dad of the girl has every right to be pissed off. His daughter is equally at fault for getting preg. when obviously not ready, but your son cannot support a preg. g/f with a job like the one he has and really needs to get a job with steady income.