Do parents ever get over their child's death?

Accepting and getting over the lost of a child is not the same

I lost my husband a few years ago today. I just got off the phone with his mom. She has accepted the lost of her son. She has not got over the lost her son

The thing she had that a most parent of a teenager do not is her grandchild from him. In a way, he lives in his daughter. I think that makes it a bit easier for her

I know my grandma never got over the lost of my mom

His mom will never get over the lost of her son

They both accepted the fact that there child died

Not sure if you asked this question before or not.

I have never lost a child, but live close to a family that just lost their very beautiful 15 year old son on the Canadian Thanksgiving day.

Brandon ran away from home after a argument over the time he was spending playing Call of duty 4 modern warfare on his Xbox360 and his parents took the game console away. Brandon climbed a tree and fell causing serious injuries and died all alone in a farmers corn field. The reason he climbed the tree we think, was to try and locate where he was and find his way home. Brandon was a twin to make matters worse. So Thanksgiving, Christmas, and his Birthday will be very sad for his family. Like many we all thought he would return home safely. I think most of all Canada adopted Brandon as their own. I know our family did and we would have done anything, to be sure he was warm and safe. To this very day we think of him often. I am sure he will be in our hearts for ever more. So going through this, I would strongly believe if I was a parent of a child that died, this would be too horrendous to ever forget or heal.

Brandon's parents have started a foundation in Brandon's name. It is to support and help unprivileged children that can't afford to get into minor sports. Brandon was very much into playing sports and was a super goalie on a local hockey team. He was unable to play the position any longer because he was small for his age. That is something that should never happen to a child and needs to change. This is what made him turn to Xbox live gaming ( which he was also very good at and probably because he was a straight A student and very smart ) . I am sure doing something like this does help the pain. However, the pain will live in his parents hearts for ever and also the hearts of everyone he touched around him. I am sure as his father said, he touched more peoples hearts in his short 15 years, than most people do in a lifetime.

( Connie Mom of 4 and 5th. Grade Teacher )

Parents can learn to accept it and move on, but they never get over it. I don't think there's a single experience worse than that. My cousins 4 month old son died of SIDS back in May or June and his gf is due anytime now with their daughter, but I still see them cry over the baby they lost. They had In Memory shirts made and everything.

My daughter was diagnosed with leukemia when she was 3. They found it in the late stages, so it had already spread to other parts of her body. There were 3 small solid tumors in the lungs, 1 in the kidney and 1 in the brain. After surgery, chemotherapy and radiation, the doctors gave her a 5-10% chance of survival. My wife and I were devastated by this but we eventually came to terms with the thought of her dying. Thankfully though, she went into remission and is now a fairly healthy 5 year old. If she had died, I don't know what I would've felt like. I thought that I would be able to handle it, but I probably would've broken down. To answer your question, I think people handle it differently. My daughter had a friend in the hospital, he had a rare brain tumor and unfortunately he passed away. His parents were very upset but we were a comfort to them. They now have their own church show that is dedicated to their son. I guess time heals. But I know they will always miss him.

I don't think parents never get over it. And I do have proof. My cousin and her unborn baby past away 10 year ago. And my aunt still can't over the death of her daughter and grandchild.

No. My brother commited suicide when I was thirteen. I am thirty two now so it was twenty one years ago and I know that my mother is still heartbroken about it. She still gets very depressed around his birthday and on the day he died. I know that everybody is different and has different views of death. It might also depend on how strong somebody's faith is, but I know my mom is a strong believer and her heart still aches.

you dont

as a parent who lost a child at birth i can honestly say the pain never goes away

it has to be harder for parents who have lost older kids

Truth is they will never get over it. They will always miss and love their child dearly. Ovcourse they will get on with their lives but they will never forget them..x

No. I was married and my husband died. It still makes me sad but I was able to move on. I miss him, but his parents make it hard. They still celebrate his birthday and sing happy birthday. For christmas they even get him gifts. It is hard to even go see them. They have 2 daughters but that was their only son.

God, I would think they couldn't ever.