What to do or say if the ex-wife and ex-wifes mom are making threats against me?

Ignore them. They are demonstrating petty childish jealousy and the children know it, or soon will. Maintain adult standards and just tell the child, "I am sorry they feel that way" and continue with your good parenting skills.

The kids will recognize who is the adult and turn to you when they are in need of affection and support.

I really feel for you, because I'm dealing with my bf's ex wife who demonstrates about the same level of maturity! Her favorite nickname for me is the "white trash whore" right now, which she likes to use on occasion in front of their kids. She has even more choice nicknames for my bf.

The disrespect she shows my bf and myself is not lost on their kids, either. It's painful and frustrating to watch.

Putting the kids in the middle on ANY disagreement or relaying hateful messages through a child is NEVER appropriate. But sadly, the people that do this are often too busy thinking about how upset they are and not taking the child's feelings into consideration. They're in the mindset that they're angry or jealous and don't have the common sense to think about how their actions or words are inflicting damage on their kids.

The behavior is NOT normal and comes down to immaturity and bad parenting. I would never disrespect my kids' father OR someone he's with simply because my kids are more important and deserve better than that. The best thing divorced parents can do is to act maturely and civilly towards each other. Kids take negative comments about either parent (or stepparents) to heart.

That being said, little girls and haircuts are a dangerous territory that you are best to stay out of. My ex and I are very civil towards each other, but I would be very offended if my ex's gf took it upon herself to cut my kids' hair without my permission, so don't overstep your bounds on this one. Leave the haircuts up to mom and keep the peace!

However, her and her mother are both way out of line threatening you. It shows you that the apple didn't fall far from the tree on that one, did it?

The best thing you can do is sit the child down. Both you and her dad need to very calmly and gently explain that no one should talk like that or threaten to hit another person. Your bf needs to have a serious talk with his ex and relay to her what kind of damage her behavior is doing to their child.

He can also let her know that if such behavior continues, threats of physical violence are a crime. If you fear she'd follow through with a physical assault, a restraining order is always an option.

That seemed to shut my bf's ex up a little. I have enough going on in my life that I don't have the time or energy for her brand of crazy. Your ex should be putting a stop to this and that child shouldn't be exposed to any of it.

And make sure you remain the bigger person. Stay calm, don't argue or say negative things about the ex-wife in front of the children (as much as you want to!) I've found that it pays in the long run to remain in the adult role and not get upset, or the ex will continue her little temper tantrums.

Sorry to hear you're going through the ex-wife issue too, but I hope you don't let it get to you and keep a level head - for the kids' sake!

Just remember, a biological act can allow anyone to be a parent. It doesn't necessarily mean they'll be a good one.

Is it normal? No. Is it Common behavior? Yes, unfortunately it is. What a horrible way for them to raise kids. Some people are so selfish. There is not much you can do without stooping to their level. Next time the kids tell you something like that just take the higher road. Tell the kids maybe its just a misunderstanding, because your sure their mom would never do such a horrible thing.

Tell them you are reporting them to the police for threats and harassment and then do it. There is no reason for any of this to be going on and definably no reason for the child to be told this.

Laugh it off. Clearly, they were not serious. Imparting perspective and a sense of humor to your children is a great thing you can do for them.

Wow bad parenting. It's understandable that they hold some negative feelings for you, but that is downright immature. Talk to your husband. If he oks the haircut, go for it.

i suggest you talk with your barber about this. barbers come in contact with alot of people and usually have the answer to all problems.

send her home bald