My boyfriends CRAZY mother! ?

She's only a deal breaker if you allow her to be. If you're important enough to him, he'll come forward and simply tell her he won't tolerate her behavior anymore. He needs to be clear about it. The hardest part for him will be getting the point across but preserving the fact that he does love her still. He needs to be straight-forward about what she's doing, how it affects HIM (she won't care how it's affecting you, trust me) and what the ramifications will be if she keeps it up. Perhaps pointing out to her that she is creating gossip about him in the long-run, since the two of you are together, might get her to better understand what's going on. Don't allow her to dictate your life or have any control over how you feel at any given moment. Remember that some parents are over-possessive, and it's up to your man to set the record straight with her. Everyone has a breaking point, even her...and once he's clear enough with her, she'll have two options: 1) keep it up and lose him and his respect...or 2) knock it off and try to be civil.

Deal breaker. If your boyfriend is a momma's boy then he's never going to fully stand up to her which means you are on your own against the Queen B of the family. Not a fun or easy position to be in. There will always be conflict, stress and unhappiness unless she actually changes but you can't really hold your breath for that.

The only way this relationship could possibly work, the way it should, is 1. if mom changes or 2. if your boyfriend completely stands up to her.

Otherwise, it may be best to cut your loses now.

Only if you let it, it can be very difficult having to deal with someone who is always interfering in your relationship. However, if you love that person you just have to put aside the third persons opinions and actions and get on with your life together. Just try not to spend so much time around her or include her in on everything. Try putting some distance between her. If the two of you really love one another and want to be together, there's nothing that no one can say or do that can change that! Good luck to you

It can be a deal breaker if he doesn''t put U 1st in his life he has to let his mom know that she has done a great job raising him to become a grown man & now he's happy in his life with U when kids become adults they also have to be treated with respect that's how life is everyone needs certain boundaries in their lives maybe U your bf & his mom should sit & have a serious heart to heart because it will get worse if he's a man he'll do the right thing Good luck to U

yep she's a bit crazy!!! yo she really is scared that you will be the girl in his life. until you came it was her that he needed. let her know that you are here as his girl, she is his mom and wil be always. You and you boyfriend need to talk to each other about how this little thing is just bugging you out he needs to have a more heart to heart with her. This needs to talked about. keep the voice level calm, listen and you'll find the answer to this silliness!!! good luck

Oh yeah. If you marry this guy then his mother will be a thorn in your side for the rest of your marriage. If you decide to have kids, then it's for the rest of your life. At that point, escaping is all over.

That is crazy. You should ask yourself whether he's worth the trouble. Do you love him enough to deal with his "crazy mother"? I think she's being unfair, but it's not like you'll have to be around her a lot, right?

My hubby is much closer to his mum than his dad, but my mum in law is pretty darn awesome and so chilled out, so i would hate to be going through what your going through.

I know my mum though couldnt get on with my grandma because she kept intefering and telling my mum what to do and how to be a good wife to her son.. so then my mum blew up, and told her to get ****** and they havent seen each other for years... and my folks are still married. :D

dont let her go all crazy and interfere with your relationship.

Nope, but lay ground rules he'll agree to, and enforce them upon her.

Fly right, or fly elsewhere, like.

Or, if he won't support your efforts, find someone who will. She isn't what you need in your life in any meaningful way just now, am I right? Stick to that. But acknowledge that he has a right to see his mother, just as you have the right to choose not to, if need be.

Listen, ur man is gonna have to deal with his mother!!!! Talk to him and let him know how u feel. If nothing changes, then u may have to break up with him. Always remember, this is ur life....DO NOT LET ANYONE MAKE U MISERABLE!!!