Ok my question is simple :?

First, is she looking for someone, or are you looking for someone for her? If she isn't feeling the need to be part of a couple, there's nothing you can do to make it happen, even if you feel it's best for her. If it is she who is looking, I would ask 'where?'. She is less likely to find someone interested in commitment and marriage in a bar than in a church group, for example.

If she isn't religious (or even if she is), there are lots of other options-- volunteering for the local theater or museum, taking/auditing a class at the university in something she is interested in, getting involved with a political party or a social movement she supports-- all these are ways of meeting people of the other sex who share interests with her.

People do meet and fall in love with each other at her age, and get married-- I know, since I've presided at their weddings. In most cases, they've met through a shared interest and activity. [I even did the wedding of a couple where he was 89 and she was 92... and believe me, the romance was still there!]

If you are no longer seeing the world through such romantic eyes, maybe you're looking in the wrong directions... And if she is searching for a mate, maybe she needs to widen her search-- not lower her standards, but look in more and different places. And if she starts out by looking for male friends who share interests, rather than appearing to be on a desperate husband-hunt, she's more likely to find both a husband and friends as well.

Good luck to her!

Does she want to meet someone and fall in love? or is it just that you are concerned that she hasn't met Mr. Right?.I am sure at 38 years old,with a good personality she has met various men in her life, but obviously not the one she wants to settle down with.If she is worrying about this, then perhaps the best way to meet someone is to go to functions for singles etc. Yes we all would like the world to be seen in more romantic eyes, but sometimes the every day stresses of life cloud this. I am sure at some point she will meet someone and be happy.

I have an aunt...

My mom's sister is in her mid/late forties, never married...

And I honestly think that there are things that she could do to improve her prospects. Not sure how much of this could apply to your aunt, but I've been wanting to tell my aunt this for years!!

Approach it like any sales job-

Assess the market-

Find out what guys want. Guys that your aunt is interested in- what are they looking for in a wife/girlfriend? Explore the various facets of what these guys consider to be attractive.

Assess the product-

You are your product (er, your aunt is the product). What are your strengths? Weaknesses? Where is the potential improvement?

Improve the product-

My aunt has sleep apnea- and does nothing about it but sleep for 10+ hours/day. My mom, on the other hand, has purchased a C-PAP machine, and is able to get the rest she needs in 8 hours.

In addition, my aunt suffers from depression (therapy?), a bad thyroid (medication?), and obesity (diet/exercise?). There are a lot of things my aunt could do to improve her appeal.

Make the product available-

Mr Right isn't going wander between my aunt and her TV. She's going to have to get off her duff and go to places where she is more likely to see/be seen by Mr Right. Also, the grave (late-night) shift isn't helping her any. Days would make dating more feasible.

Like I said, I don't know your aunt's situation, but these are things I've wanted to say to my own aunt for years... every time she starts whining about it.... ugh!

Maybe she doesn't want to just settle for anyone. A lot of people does this because they believe that they are getting to old and settle. Until she find her sole mate, she has the right to remain unmarried. By the way, she may not want to be marry and have children especially since the divorce rate is so high and then factor in if you have children and what it will do to them.

Everyone else is getting married , so what's wrong with her ?

She obviously has issues that drive her prospects away .

Men are simple creatures . Not difficult at all . So ask yourself this ,

What is keeping her from connecting with men ?

Here is my list of things that I would need to have from a wife .

Looks can be offset by personality and skills .

1} Great Sex , both Oral and Vaginal with a interest in erotic sensuality and enjoying her sexuality .

2} Good cooking skills

3} Good house cleaning skills

4} Ability to make a decent income

5} Good attitude and pleasant disposition

6} Is not selfish but pleasing , accommodating

Does she offer these qualities ?

Maybe she has yet to meet a man as together as she is.

I am a divorced woman in my 30s and that is what I see. Most men today in their 30s are glorified mamas boys looking for a teet to suck at.

Some women are dumb enough to have kids with these men. Your aunt actually has her crap together.

Maybe because she is scared to make the first move?

Idk

Does she even want a man in the first place?

Set her up with some men..

Take her to bars..

Maybe she hasn't found the right guy yet or maybe she doesnt even want to get married.

She probably doesn't worry about it as much as you do! You ever think shes happy the way shes living now!!!

perhaps it is the "not THAT pretty" that makes men not interested..

why does she need you to sort out her love life???