How many of you are anti-adoption...?

Oh, (: you wrote, "What if the child wanted to run away to find his real parents?" That's one of the more hilarious things Ive read in a while...other than most of Ollie's questions.

Guess what? Almost ALL adoptees want to know our "real parents". We dont run away to do it unless we are abused by our adoptive parents. Hopefully you are not or will not be an adoptive parent.

Dancer's answer is the BIGGEST reason I am "anti-adoption". Ignorance from people who have no clue what it is like to be kept in the dark about your heritage.

I do not like to call myself "anti-adoption", though. I am anti- ignorance, whether it is from people running their mouths who have no clue, or agents/baby brokers who coerce young women into surrendering their babies. I am also against brokers charging ridiculous sums of money for babies. I am against international adoptions, where children are ripped from their native land. I am against close records.

No one should EVER be denied access to their families. I am against people making adoptees feel guilty, or calling them ungrateful or bitter & angry because they have the capacity to love both of their families.

I am 100% anti-adoption. I despise it and the damage it has caused to so many people throughout the decades. I hate that the church upholds it and promotes it as being what God wants when in fact it is the opposite.

I hate that children are being used as commodities, products and objects of desire. I detest families are split apart for the sake of others greed.

However, in saying that I am anti adoption it does not mean I believe children should be kept in situations of abuse, neglect or where they are in need of care outside their families of origin. I just don't think it needs to be adoption.

I first became really anti adoption after I LOST (yes LOST) my child to adoption. She was taken from me just because another couple wanted my child for themselves. She was not in danger, she was not abused or neglected. In fact I was even proven to be the better parent for my child but she was still taken (think money changing hands, corruption the whole deal). After this I was introduced to many women who faced similar ordeals, many were worse than what I had been through. It is more common than I thought and it was all in the name of adoption. I had once thought adoption was a good thing. I was naive and believed all children who were adopted were unwanted by their families. How wrong was I!

I decided to research more into this and meet more people whom had been affected by this awful social disease. I was staggered by the numbers of people I have met in person and online this awful thing has maimed. Adoptees, adoptive parents and mothers alike, they have all fallen victim to this thing that is still allowed to go in and separate families, a wolf in sheep's clothing, a kindly appearing creature nursing devious intentions. Adoption is based only on one thing and that is loss. Sure there are perks for some like a child but in order for anadan adoption have taken place, someone, somewhere had to lose and so how can I support a thing that causes pain? How can I focus on only the positives when the negatives are so devastating and in most cases far out weigh the positives?

I am not anti people wanting a child nor children wanting a family, I feel and believe and know there are ways other than adoption to achieve this. Adoption itself has seen its days. It was a good thing once upon a time long, long ago when it was ONLY about giving a person (not necessarily an infant) a name when they had none, a place in the world, an identity and a future. Those days are gone and with it, the need for adoption.

I'm against letting people who are not educated on adoption and the effects it has on people, especially transracial adoptees like myself.

I'm against people always wanting to adopt babies when there are thousands of kids above toddler age who really need a family.

I'm against adoption being "cool" and "trendy".

I don't really care whether or not people adopt. I'm not anti-adoption (by your definition, anyway). I believe that every single child on this Earth is entitled to a safe, warm, comfortable, loving home with people who share DNA, if possible. If not possible, then people who live in the same town/village/state, who look like them, share the values of their first family, the language, culture, eat the same foods, etc.

And I just don't see why adoption is necessary in order to make that happen. In most cases, guardianship would do the trick. Or in other countries, often what they need are social programs so that people can feed their own children...it doesn't help impoverished countries to sell their children to people in richer countries. The people who are left behind still don't have any food, AND they've lost their most precious asset: their children!

Define what being "anti-adoption" is.

I do not like the idea of international adoption *having* to happen. I know that it is necessary in many cases as reform would never happen overnight and the agencies would not want reform because that is how they gain profit...

... but I really wish children didn't "need" to be abandoned in the first place. I wish that the One-Child Policy didn't exist and that people in China and Korea were encouraged to do domestic adoption more often - or better yet, dig to the root source of the problem to prevent adoption from having to happen at ALL.

I do not like a child having to sacrifice their original culture, language and homeland based on the basic need of JUST surviving. No human being should have to sacrifice one life for another just based on human survival.

I am anti any infant adoption. The natural mother must have time and support to sort out her maternal feelings. I am vehemently anti pre-birth matching. It is adoption coercion at its worst. I am vehemently anti adoptive parents who advertise, troll, and self promote their superior "qualifications" as parents. They are belly-groping creeps.

I am anti any adoption that wipes out a person's identity and heritage.

I am pro for providing safe and secure families for children who need a home. There are thousands in the system. Please leave pregnant women alone to make their parenting decision in peace.

I'm anti-unethical adoption. I'm pro-ethical adoption.

I'm totally anti domestic infant adoption because I find it immoral, unethical and down right evil.

I am anti-adoption in EVERY case where there is a living parent or relative who a) wants his/her child, b.) is capable of caring for his/her child (not financially**, but mentally and physically), and c.) is not a danger/threat to the child.

In other words, I am anti-unethical adoptions.

**ANY parent who believes they cannot raise a child because of financial issues should be referred to DSS/DHEC to apply for state aid. ANY person trying to adopt an infant or fetus from a mother solely because she is unable to afford a baby, should refer the mother to DSS/DHEC, NOT take her child from her. If this is the only (or major) issue pushing her towards adopting out her child then, no, it isn't ethical or right in any way to remove a child from a loving, caring mother who simply doesn't know the services and help available to her and her child.

I believe adoption should be ABOUT the CHILD; thus it should be about finding homes for children in NEED and not satisfying the wants of adults.