Wedding planning drama, please help!?!?!?

You are joking, right? Asking a gal to step down from the wedding party BECAUSE OF HER FEET NOT BEING PRETTY ENOUGH????

Now I really have heard it all.

You don't mediate a d@mn thing, Toots.

You tell Ms Bridezilla to do her own dirty work....SHE axes the poor gal....wow. What are you for her, her Bridal Gestapo? So you get all the heat/flack and she doesn't have to deal with the aftermath of her own shallowness and the hurt it will cause?

Oh, BTW, if you do this for her, not only will College Pal be hurt, she will consider Bride a flaming coward for not doing her own dirty work...which is true.....wow. And of course, there will no longer be a college pal....this will end their friendship.

...and tell your bff that all she needs to do is ask the photographer not to take any close up foot shots, which he won't unless he's got a major foot fetish.

besides, pantyhose hides a multitude of foot 'sins'......and if the College pal starts NOW, her feet WILL be in shape...just takes some time and daily TLC....easy enough to do.....treat her to an initial pedicure to get advice/the ball rolling....and stress upkeep until the big day...after that, she can be as abusive to her 'dogs' as she wants...good luck.

There is not a pedicure that will save the feet before the wedding? I have let my feet go from time to time, especially in the winter, and believe me that after a pedicure every 2 weeks for 6 weeks, my feet were ready for anything. The person specialized to do the pedicure will know all the tricks of the trade to have her feet in tip-top shape by the wedding. Plus in the pictures, everyone will be looking at the bride and bridesmaids, not everyone's feet. If they are, then they have a problem. Heck you can even bury your feet in the sand and have really fun and cute pics.

I would never ask one of my BMs to step down because she had ugly feet. That is being ridiculous. And YOU should never be the one to ask her to step down.

If this is a serious question (unfortunately nothing makes me think otherwise), then:

1. You don't need to do your friends dirty work. If she's going to be bridezilla-ish enough to not have a close friend involved just because she has unattractive feet, well, then she needs to tell her.

2. That means there's nothing that you need to do or mediate.

3. The fact that most photos are taken above the feet coupled with the power of photoshop means that the pictures will probably not be ruined.

4. Your friend is being a bit shallow here and maybe it's your actual duty as MOH not to bend to her whims but to let her know when she's getting out of hand.

Good luck!!

Wow, that is a serious case of Bridezilla when a bride wants someone out of their wedding party because of their feet! First off, no one is looking at anyone besides the bride. Secondly, if they do look at someone else, I doubt it's at their feet. Thirdly, it you're on an island that is pretty sandy, I really doubt that the feet will even be noticeable in the squishy sand. It just seems like something that could hurt a friendship between them because it's so frivolous! But anyways, you do not need to be the one to break the news to her. The bride needs to tell her.

No one will pay attention to the feet... Especially in photos... You can even make sure the photographer doesn't get the feet in most photos... Close up ones anyway...

It is a bit shallow and bridezilla'ish... It's rude to have a bridesmaid in the wedding and then all of a sudden shoo her out because of her feet... She can't help the fact...

I would sit your BFF down and tell her she shouldn't worry about it... The attention will be on her and her groom... About the commitment between two people so in love... No one will care how someone else's feet look...

She can't possibly put you in that situation... Sit her down and bring her back down to reality...

Good luck and have fun at the wedding!!

If the bride wants to be shallow enough to kick someone out of her wedding because of ugly feet...well she should be the one to do it, not you.

Regardless, unless the bride plans to have a close-up picture of everyone's feet...I doubt you'll even notice them in any picture. Just have the BM get a pedicure to make them look a little better. No one will be looking at them anyway...they'll be too focused on the bride and groom.

In the first place, the photographer can avoid including this woman's feet in the pictures. In the second place, if one of the bridesmaids had a huge ugly tattoo or scar on her back, would the bride insist on backless dresses? The best answer is to select different shoes, the second-best answer is to ignore the appearance of that poor woman's feet.

You just caused my jaw to literally drop. What a horrible friend to want to kick out a bridesmaid (someone who is suppose to be a close and loved friend) out of the wedding because her awful feet might ruin pictures.

That being said, it is not your job to kick anyone out,even at the brides request. If she wants to be this nutso about something so petty, let her be the one to deal with it.

First off that is very shallow to leave someone out because of their feet. Second, if she wants to excuse her from the bridal party she needs to do it herself. You can't be caught in between. Just step aside and let the bride know she is responsible for her wedding.

Have the friend burry her feet in the sand.