Dad is cheating on mom..:( ....helppp !!!!!?

That's you parents' problem and although it's fine for you to talk to your parents about their relationship you need to stand up and tell them that knowing about this is hurting you. they have no right to give you information about that. it's something they need to keep private, and you should let them know that the topic's theirs to discuss in private but any conversations about it or actions of your dad's needs to be discrete and not brought into your lives any more.

At one point, if they split up, you'll know about it and can have a say in where you live and what you want your relationships with them to be like. But the reasons for the split are not for the kids to know or judge.

I appreciate your concern and I'm sure your Mom does too. But this is mostly out of your hands at this point.

How difficult exactly is it to leave? Cut spending, because this stuff gets very expensive. Separate the bank accounts. Rent an apartment and move, or kick dad out. Take the car or buy a cheap used one. Get a lawyer. Serve divorce notice. You become a latchkey kid (you sound old enough to not need a babysitter for an afternoon). And you lose a lot of nice things, but in the end they are just things.

In the end your mom will finally get enough self-respect to leave, or she won't. I honestly wonder if the only reason she hasn't already left is because she feels guilty about something, like being absolutely frigid to him or something that could help explain (but never excuse!) his behavior. Or maybe she thinks she's too old to be in this position? I would say that too is incorrect. She has to realize that in the end nobody put a gun to his head and made him do the stupid crap he is doing now.

Bottom line is, if it's to the point where he's doing it openly, he is no longer ashamed of it and he is probably not going to change his mind unless something extremely drastic (also out of your control) happens. He may not even think of it as cheating because that implies deceit, whereas he's doing it openly. It sounds like he's already mentally checked out.

Man, your Mom should be so proud to have you for a daughter. In reality, it is your mom that should be stressing over this and not you. Not to be mean like I want your mom to stress but I mean that she is the only one who can change things. I saw it happening to my mom. I felt so bad for her but there was nothing that I could do. In the end, my dad left her for the other woman. It killed my mom. She never remarried and never got together with another man. Your mom needs to really think about her situation and ask herself....is HE really worth all of this pain?? It doesn't look like your father will stop. Some people just have these faults, we all do, some are capable of hurting worse than others. Your father is not doing this because of your Mom. It;s not your mom's fault and if you can convey this to her it would surly boost her spirits up. Also, it seems with her smarts that she could take care of herself independent of your father. Good luck to you and your mom.

From what it seems, your parents are not really interested in eachother,but they have got to stay on together for you and your sister. Since they both seem indifferent to their relationship and are not really used to having strong relationships(they're both divorcees),then staying mentally distanced shouldn't really hurt too much. Personally, I feel that since there's no way out, your mother should try to pull herself psychologically away from your father and concentrate on her job and daughters (that will definately occupy her time). After you and your sister are on your own feet, she can think of getting associated with women's groups or friends and do lots of fun things with them(my grandma did so after my grandpa passed away,she even took up a course at The Art Of Living,and it worked wonders!)

This is the most painless way out of something that might get even more messy if taken in a different way. By that time, three things can happen with your father-1. he gets to realise his mistake, 2. He carries on in the same way 3. He leaves your mother on his own, which might be the best thing to happen!

Hope that helped.

I'm very sorry about your situation. it's never nice to see parents go through these crises. Unfortunately there is not much that you can do. you can talk to him about his behavior and remind him about the good qualities that your mom possesses, but beyond this they are two adults who need to work out their issues. He told her to leave him, which is a very strong statement to make. He does not respect her anymore because he is doing it in front of her. At this point do you think she wants him back if he reforms? Think about the pain that he put her through and that she will never completely trust him again. What he has done has created many scars for her. It is not fair to her in that sense. I am sorry but you can't convince him to stop. He needs to realize what is important and want to change. Hope it works out.

I feel your pain - but in a way, a lot of things can be done to TRY to resolve it, but more things come to mind for a wife to a husband, as much as I know it must tear you apart knowing the difficulties your parents face.

I think your mom should leave it seems like he stopped caring and is caught up in the lust of other women

But this is between your parents I know you want to help them but you cant....

Just love your parents even if they do wrong

Your mom should leave him and find someone who deserves her! My dad did the same thing and my mom packed his bags for him. 5 years later he came crawling back saying he made a mistake, but my mom already found someone who loves her and only her. Good Luck!

When already divorcee , what is the point in living together. Instead feeling insulted all the times , its better to live separately

sometimes we have to face facts when its over, its over, u dont need to be bought up in a home like this, ur mom doesnt need this either, im sorry u have to deal with this but it may be best for all if she would divorce him