Is suppressing feelings emotionally unhealthy?

No. suppressing feelings is not unhealthy. Its a part of emotion regulation which is very healthy and necessary. It is precisely those people who are unable to regulate emotions who have most psychological difficulties.

Avoidance, however, is not a healthy coping strategy. You should confront your emotions. This does not mean, however, that you need to express them. But it is important to work on understanding how you feel and why you feel that way.

If you think your feelings are unhealthy or will lead to do unhealthy things, you should try to suppress them. That's a great way to stop yourself from doing unhealthy things.

Also, know that just by expressing an emotion, you make that emotion stronger. Ever heard of smiling when you are sad to make yourself feel a little less bad? It does work, although it does not always produce extreme effects.

The emotions you are writing about are not a problem when it comes to suppression. I think mainly the ones to worry about are anger and grief. Maybe, though, you mean: Should you tell the person how you feel or hint at it? If so, caution is a good idea, since you would open yourself to hurt by doing so.

Also, your trying "to find wrongs with them " is due to your intuition warning you that something is wrong, something about that someone doesn't seem right. Always listen to your intuition. Maybe give it a little more time. Sometimes that helps a lot, things surface to be seen and recognized, and your decision becomes easier.

It is good to not suppress feelings that are bound to continue but can be mitigated by resolving an issue that can change the situation, such as how you feel with a spouse who you continue living with who you think is not giving you enough affection. Opening up those feelings will lead to changes and improvements in the relationship. That is a healthy opening of feelings.

On the other hand, if the feelings can't do any good whatsoever (can't change the situation), such as lingering endless tears over a person who is deceased or someone who left you who will never come back, then as hard as it is, the "move on" strategy is the only solution that can lead to any good.

Face your own emotions but act them out according to your own values. Emotions don't always lead us in the right directions and can be caused by a variety of reasons. You may be attracted to the wrong person for the wrong reasons. Check it out. Just because you feel an emotion, doesn't mean you have to immediately gratify it.

If you're unsure about their true intentions, I wouldn't say suppressing your feelings is unhealthy...it sounds like you're protecting yourself until you know them better, which is VERY healthy.

Yes it is very bad. suppressing feelings can not only cause emotion problems in the time of your life right now but can sometimes cause issues in your later life.

Yeah it is, but when I told her I don't know if I will ever here from her again. I still also didn't feel all that great when I wrote her the letter anyways.

to answer that question... think of this... what would happen if you put more gunpowder in something and lit it on fire.... its going to make a bigger explosion and ends up being alot more destructive, maybe even to the point of hurting people... so i suggest (if you dont have anyone to talk to) writing down whats bothering you...on a piece of paper.... or typing it up... then after your down... burn it or delete it

Take it out on a punching bag..it feels so good wen you let all that energy out. Believe me

what helps me a lot with dilemmas like this is the awareness that i am always either practicing faith or fear. i can't do both at once. when i see things that clearly the choice becomes obvious: faith/trust/love.