Is it my place to say something to my mom?

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My mom and dad recently got a divorce and my mom now has a boyfriend who I have never met. She is always talking to him on the phone, texting him and buying him things. She spends more time and money on him then she does on her own daughters. She met him about a month ago. They are already sexually active. I have found condoms, lubes, toys, coupons and other kinky things by her bed that were never there before. Plus I have read her texts which are very racy and graphic. I am worried that she is moving too fast. Should I say something to her? We have always been really open. She knows about all my relationships, my first time and all that, and she told me that she was not going to have sex again til she was married. Is it my place to call her lie or would that be inappropriate for a 15 year old.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I believe it is your place. She is your life, what created you and if you are worried for her well being and such, you should be aloud to say something. Knowing that she is going to be protective over the issue tell her you know.. The things you said when asking for advice. She is your mom and you have a right to say something.

GC · Answer

call her lie if it's really worth the risk to you. 

yeah i don't think it's your place to call her lie because she was probably only saying the whole "waiting for marriage" bit for your benefit--i don't care how open you two are you're still her baby girl!

i suggest letting her know how much you care about her and telling her you're afraid she's moving too fast with this guy of hers. 

but this is kind of normal, i wouldn't worry too much if your mom seems to be handling herself ok. sounds to me like she's just on the rebound (even if she initiated the divorce) and needs someone to help her not feel so lonely for awhile. pretty soon, she'll probably get used to her new lifestyle and slow down again.

Bev · Answer

If you really love your mother, she'll understand. She'll understand you're only worried about her. I'm in the same situation you are in a way. My parents recently got divorced and my mother also has a new boyfriend. But if your mom's boyfriend makes her happy, who are you to say no? Even if you're her daughter.

Anonymous · Answer

Wow... I feel you on the not meeting your mom's bf part, but wow, i could NEVER be that open with my mom. Finding that stuff of hers would tramatize me like you wouldn't believe...EW!!!!
Anyway, if you and your mom's relationship is that good,then talking to her would be a very good idea, because you might save her from making a very big mistake.

Nathan W. · Answer

start taking her "toys" and put them beside your bed.  that'd really throw her through a loop.  all kinds of cool stuff you could do to get your point across.  either talk to her or email her.  yeah, emailing sounds kind of goofy, but there's no chance of her arguing back that way.  be honest and most importantly, be honest.....

then take all her lube and stick it in your dresser....hehe

Linda M · Answer

It Is None Of Your Business What She Does If It affects You Then Talk To Her.

Alexis · Answer

wow thats alot to put on you right after they got the divorce! and yes you can say something because she might not notice that it bothers you and your worried about her. just say everything gently and don't lose your temper too quickly : ]

ps i'm 14 : ]

Anonymous · Answer

It's not innapropriate. It's completely fine, you ARE her daughter. I would definitely speak up, in a calm way though. Good luck!

•◘hyper fyber◘• · Answer

thats really messed up he might be playing ure mo and takin advantage for maybe money and gifts talk to her and be open to her right now ure more mature then she is

stansells404 · Answer

IF YOU AND YOUR MOM ARE AS CLOSE AS YOU SAY,THEN YOU SHOULD TALK TO HER AND LET HER HEAR HOW THIS MAKES YOU FEEL

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