How to tell our children that we are "boyfriend/girlfriend" after a divorce?

Let them come to you, mostly.

Your oldest 3 kids and his two are old enough to understand that their mommy and their daddy kissing mean that mommy and daddy are dating, but you don't have to provide some long-winded explaination to them. They are still young enough to be easily accepting of someone new in your life.

Tell them that if they have any questions about you and whats-his-name, they can ask you, and then leave it at that. They are less likely to get stressed out and question your relationship is you don't get all stressed out about it.

I think the 8, 6, and 5 year old are old enough to grasp the concept of their parents not being "together" anymore. Is it possible that your husband could be present during the conversation?That way they know that it doesn't hurt him that you're seeing someone. Have you discussed the divorce issue with them already? If so, then it will be easier. They are probably privy to the idea that when parents get divorced, eventually they will have a boyfriend or girlfriend. I mean we are living in modern times here, not the bible ages where a divorced woman would be stoned. let them know that your bf is your new very good friend and he will be spending more time around the family. Make it clear that he does not want to replace their dad, and they should view him as a good friend of theirs too. But they must respect him like they would any other adult. Good luck!

Just talk to them and make it simple. Let them know that you like him and that he likes you and that now you are boyfriend and girlfriend. You don't need to go into details because they are still young. If they have questions answer them as best you can without making it complicated.

I have 4 children from my past relationship. My daughters are now 7 and 6 and my boys are 4 and 3. I met my current boyfriend about 15mths ago and it was quite a change from being a single mom to having my boyfriend around all the time. It's quite and adjustment but it working out just great.

Don't tell them anything. They already have an idea what is going on. Talking about it might make them think about it too much and cause more problems. I am sure they already have it pretty well figured out...well except for the 1 1/2 yr old that wouldn't understand anyways.

First of all 7 months sure didn't give it much time. Second, I wouldn't make any type of announcement. Kids are pretty smart and they already have it figured out anyway. I would just take it slow and not expose them to too much just yet. Besides, you are both on the rebound and this may not work out. If they ask then tell them, otherwise just let things smooth into a relationship.

Red

Might be wiser to get serious AFTER the divorce is final. But if you are all doing family things together already, saying anything about what is going on would be redundant.

I don't think you need me make it official to them, because if it doesn't work out, you will have to make it unofficial to them too!

Just tell them he is a very special friend, and makes you happy, just like they do! Tell them you enjoy spending time with him.

I don't think you need to sit them down and say " we are boyfriend and girlfriend"

Just take it slow, and they will get it when they are ready to.

your kids are so small to talk about that; you continues to share beautiful moments together;your kids are not ready to listen something formal between you yet. Look like good friends on front of them.

I don't really think you need to tell them anything. They don't seem traumatized and seem to be well adjusted... The only reason I'd say anything is if someone is freaking out...You don't seem to be having that problem. :)

Don't. Just tell them that there are no guarantees, but that you two are trying to work things out. This is a very delicate issue. Tread lightly.