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Moving on with a new man?
I have recently split with my bf. We have a 9 month history of splitting up and getting back together. It normally follows the pattern of he hurts me or lets me down, I get cross and then he retreats into silence. We split for a month last Oct but got back together in Dec only to split just before New Year.
I met someone else today and had great fun. He is very keen on me but I know in my heart that I am still in love with the man I have just split with. If I go out with the new man I feel like I am using him to get over the old one... but on the other hand, as I get over the old one I may fall for the new one anyway...
I am really confused and don't know what to do - please help...
well the last one wasn't really a relationship cos although he texted all the time, I hardly ever saw him.. In fact since we split at the end of October i only saw him 3 times... The new guy I like and I am not attracted to many men so I don't want to miss the opportunity really....
I don't want to marry anyone!!! lol Been there, done that and have 2 kids!! And both the men I am talking about have been married too!!! But thanks for the comments!!
5 Answers
- 1 decade agoFavorite Answer
It can work if you acually like this guy. I think alot of people move on to another relationship when they're not fully over there ex but you can fall for someone else and it does help to get you over the other person.
The quesion is are you ready for another relationship? its up to you.
- Anonymous1 decade ago
i never do this when i split from men i have time to myself first learn to love myself have fun with my friends even a holiday for i think if you split from one and go out with another you are carrying your hurt guilt and all the emotional baggage with you you start to compare your new partner with the old to see if he comes up to standard or not i like to be free of baggage and make sure my bruised or broken heart is healed properly and i am stronger inside before i begin again or anew with someone else
i was married 17yrs when i realised it was not working i divorced but i had 2yrs on my own before a childhood sweetheart came into my life again he has never married we have no kids i lost two while married but we went out had fun then he moved in and i am very happy okay we argue but we make up we help other in crisis times we share joy tears but i am happy he is the love of my life and he will be my last for if this relationship does not work out then i am prepared to live out my years alone i am 53 54 april but, if i had not cleared all the hurt anger guilt out first then this relationship i am in now would not have worked out.
- blackpool lassLv 71 decade ago
hiya tigger, you can't go on falling out and making up with your boyfriend.you could never marry someone like that.what would happen if you had children with him.the children will be very timid,and will not know what is going on.try this new guy,you don't know given time he might turn out to be great man.could even be your soul mate.don't throw your life away with your b/friend.you need to start enjoying your life,and maybe start thinking of long team.good luck,and have fun.
- rodregosLv 51 decade ago
Hi
Dump your old boy friend,and go with the new guy,because its obviously not going to work with your boy friend if you keep splitting and then getting back together,he is obviously immature
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- Anonymous1 decade ago
Would you like being used in the same way? Do the right thing!
Do keep talking to him if something nice can out of it but not to get over someone noone deserves that.