What should I ask my husband?

When you don't know what to say, it's sometimes best to use vague terms and let the other person interpret them. For example, you could ask him if he is "having feelings" for someone else lately or if he feels like he is "getting close" to someone. If I were you, though, I wouldn't count on him "coming clean". No offense to you, but pregnant women are notorious for hormonal-driven emotionality, so your mind might just be making up this affair.

Edit: I wish you'd said your edit in the original details. Based on what you're saying now, I don't understand why you're so angry at your husband. He is asking you to intercede on his behalf to get the woman to stop. If he wants to stop, why the need to question him? Why not just help him stop? By all means, come down hard, and jump in with both feet. Put a stop to it in the most definitive way possible. But while your husband seems a bit disturbingly lacking in assertiveness and backbone, at least his heart seems to be in the right place. Bottom line, I think this situation will work out better if you cooperatively help your husband resolve it than if you take an combative attitude with him.

O.k then write this down on a peace of paper....

1. When did it start?

2. Who is he having the emotional affair with?

3. Is it more that just an emotional affair?

4. Has it turned physical?

5. Why did he feel the need to have the affair?

6. Is he in love with her?

7. Is he still in love with you?

8. What have you decided to do?

If you are having complications with your pregnancy, it is best that you call a friend to be there for support in case you need it, perhaps in a different room.

I have had friends that have been in similar situations, that were on the verge of divorce based on it, however, they overcame it and have never been happier.

Relationship have what you should think of as a "love bank". You have "deposits" which are things like, saying I love you, you look beautiful or sexy, out of the blue giving some flowers or having a romantic dinner, etc., then you have "with-drawls" i.e fights, nagging, disappointment in the other, etc.

Here's where the problem comes in. Affairs happen based on who the person is getting more deposits from. If there is another person making a few deposits here and there and you are making more with-drawls, eventually, that love bank will no longer be in your name, but the name of another.

So before the blame game is played, you should look at both sides of the equation. If you aren't part of the problem, you're part of the solution.

How this helps some.

Well make sure you stay calm and keep a cool head!

Don't let emotions get the better of you, even though it may be hard.

Be blunt! Ask him flat out what's going on.

In order to get answers from men, women must be blunt, men never understand "subliminal messages!"

Flip out if you need to. He's cheating for pete's sake!