My employee buys expensive shoes, what should I do?

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She is an assistant detective and a secretary in my detective agency. She is very efficient and a nice person. She graduated from   Botswana secretarial college with a top degree (97 per cents). Plus,   we are friends. She is very good with her money. She has her salary  and she keeps a little business - a Kalahari typing school for men.   But she rents a place and sends a lot of money to her family in   Bobonong. She has a thing for shoes. She always admires them, and stares at the shop windows - it is an innocent enough activity, after all. She bought one pair of expensive shoes already, green shoes with the blue lining, and yesterday, when we went shopping for a pressure cooker, she bought another expensive pair, comparing to which those green shoes seems practicality itself. They are blue shoes, with red lining, and with delicate high heels and toes which came to a point, like the nose of a supersonic aircraft. I told her that they were made for people who had one toe only, and, as we had traditionally shaped feet, then we should stick to traditionally shaped shoes. She bought them nevertheless, and wore them to work today, and she can barely walk in them. I didn't want to tell anything at first because the thing was done, and she is old enough to buy her own shoes, but I wondered if I am at least in some degree responsible to ensure that she does not make too many bad decisions. Interfere or not? What should I do?

insomniac · Accepted Answer

Is this a genuine question or is this a character in a book that we're supposed to recognize? If so, sorry, I apparently haven't read it.

If it's a genuine question - just ignore it. Sooner or later she won't be able to take the pain of wearing shoes like that all day and she'll start wearing sensible shoes to work.

Or you could buy a pair of heels for yourself and mince and limp around the office like absolutely nothing is out of the ordinary. That could be fun.

Grace1228 · Answer

Why in the world would you 1) care or 2) think you have a right to say anything at all about what shoes your employee or friend purchases?

Not to be rude, but that's just ridiculous. Some people are ok with spending a lot on shoes, others would rather put that money to a different use. But she takes care of her financial responsibilities (there is nothing wrong with renting) and buys what she wants - it's none of your business.

I'm still trying to figure out how what school she went to, what percent in her class she graduated, and what these shoes looked like...is in any way relevant.

That question actually sounded like a paragraph from a book or something...

drifter · Answer

Why might I ask is this in the book section?

Anyways. Leave her be. Its her feet and her money. Its none of your buisness on what shoes she buys expensive or cheap. Butt out ok! And next time you have a question like this ask it in the Family & Relationship section. It might help you better. :D

Cherio

? · Answer

I got a good pair for $40 at a Nike outlet and I run 2-3 miles daily.

Kat · Answer

In her eyes it prob. wasn't a bad decision and usually woman shoes will hurt the first couple of times you where them till they stretch out and they become one with the foot.  I'm sure that when she wears them enought it wouldn't hurt her feet anymore. definitely stay out of it - Fashion can sometimes be painful and to look good (in a new pair of shoes) we will go the extra mile!!

Wounded Duck · Answer

Mind your own business

fatima · Answer

one day invite her to go with you somewhere and tell her that it is just for an hour and that you wont walk alot...(but it's a lie) actually you will walk the whole day but try to make her wear a high heal...in that time she will feel tired and will stop buying these shoes...
i hope it works....good luck!!!!

Anonymous · Answer

She's an adult she has a right to buy whatever shoes she wants.

worldstiti · Answer

as her friend - mind your own business
and as her boss only say something if it interferes with the way she does her job

women have weaknesses like that - its ok

nthernlites40 · Answer

I would probably leave it alone, it's not like you pay her bills it's her money how she spends it is her business.

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