Emotionally Unattached Husband?

Oh honey, you are singing to the choir.

I think this is something common that marriages go through. The key word here is GO THROUGH.

I don't know how much I can encourage you, because at this very moment I kinda feel as though IM in the same boat as you.

Hear me out.... I know this sucks, but, you might have to change something or things that you are doing. And IM not just talking sexual stuff either.

9 times out of 10 a mans love language is different than a womans. So, with that, you need to know his love language, and speak it. The hard part is doing that even though YOUR needs aren't being met. But if you do this... he will start doing for you as well.

1 Words of Affirmation

2 Quality Time

3 Receiving Gifts

4 Acts of Service

5 Physical Touch

For example my mans love language is physical touch.... mine isn't. Mine is acts of service. We (as humans) tend to speak what our love language is to our spouse, and there is a good chance that is is foriegn to him. So if you are investing your time and efforts into the other areas, you will get burned out and he is still feeling like your aren't meetin his needs.

It's tough because what we want is for the other person to make the first move. UGHH it's so hard to be the one to take the first step.

You can do it!

I still think you should come to him in a nice loving way and let him know how you feel. Make it "I" statements, not YOU statements. So he doesn't feel attacked.

And don't ever feel (or let him try and make you feel) like your feelings are wrong.

FEELINGS ARE NOT WRONG. THEY ARE NEVER WRONG.

You have zero control over your feelings, but 100% control on your behavior.

So its how you react to things dispite your feelings that can change.

As far as the excuses go.... call him on them. Call him on them until he is finally out of them and has nothing else. Because the bottom line is they are excuses and he needs to realize that. Regardless of how you two got to this point.... you are coming to him asking him how you both can make it different (better). So try not to dwell on the past, just from now on, what can make the sex life better.?!?!

I wish you the best!

He Has Settled, If You Loved Grilled Cheese Sandwiches but you ate them Every nite Soon than later you would Still eat them but without the Thrill you had Before.

You Need to Mix things Up and Get out and try new things as a Couple. Try and Bring back that Spark that was once there

have a serious conversation about it, make it clear to him that you do not intend to leave the conversation until he gives you an acceptable answer as to why he is not showing you love. tell him it makes you feel like you are not worthy of his love and that you are not attractive. i recommend consoling, or at least talk with each other more

It's entirely possible he's not physically capable or showing intimacy. Lots of men have to deal with ED. Maybe he needs to see his doctor for a complete checkup. Be sure and mention these things.

That is so funny that I read this. Because my man is the same way. However he has changed a little to accommodate my needs. I talked to him about it. People have different love styles. I am a touch time of person and he is a reassurance type of person. Eventually he got it.

if he will not get counseling i would leave him it might be a wake up call for him