Can anyone who has been stuck between a rock and a hard place help me?

I have been in this position at least once before and have learned... not to get involved with men who have women (either a best friend or an ex) who is still very much a part of their lives. This guy has shown you that there are still some under lying issues. What does your gut tell you? Women have very good instincts and they need to learn to always depend on them. The ex....quite possibly...could be lying and trying to undermine your relationship.....women are very good at stuff like that. I have learned through out the years....if someone lies about you....you are not calm...you become very emotional. All this is not the real issue....the real issue is that you do not trust him. Why not? I think you need to leave him alone and find yourself someone who a) you can truly trust and b) someone who you know only wants you....that there is no one else they want to be with. There are tons of guys out there who aren't going to put you through all these trials and tribulations.

I went through the same thing!!!!! When me and my boyfriend started dating he wasn't over his ex. He would even still answer her phone calls. I was fed up. I threaten to leave him and eventually he realized that his ex was nothing compared to what we have. We have been together for 2 years now. You can't believe his ex over him... (unless he has a reputation of lieing to you) But until you have hard evidence and a good reason to leave, hang in there for now. I did, and me and my boyfriend are doing wonderful.

He lying to you from his real calm answer to your question, he sounds like hes trying to keep both girls happy, not that he has done anything with the ex but hes flirting. He would be straight on the phone to his ex telling her to stop spreading lies but he didnt.

This sounds like a constant doubt for you, I would give it up and meet someone else whose free. Youll also get your self esteem back and have a happier life.

If he was my bf I'd give him a ultimatum. If you want to be with me you HAVE to cut ALL ties to your EX. If he doesn't then I'd break up with him. Why? Cause I deserve better and I don't want any DRAMA in my life.

You might love him. But if he won't leave her alone and you do leave him.... trust me you WILL find someone else.

ok.. this could be one of 2 different things .. she want you to break up with him so she can get back with him..or he is trying to play both sides..he don't want to close the door on her so if you two don't make it .he then can always go back to her. never trust ex's .you need to get her and him together ..then ask him.. they both can't lie with out going against the other .

His ex is just jealous... she probably made something up because she wants to be with him but can't cause you're with him.

Don't break up with him because she's a problem... if you like him you guys will make it work. She's just a turd and you should ignore her!!

Good luck :)

It was probably a lie, ex's like to sabatoge. Just tell him that he either had to cut his ex out of his life or you will cut out of his.

well if i were you and this ex is still bringing herself into this relationship i would talk to your boyfriend and tell him how it is.

she is no longer in a relationship wiht him and if she's causing htis much trouble then she obviously isn't a friend.

if he wants to continue with your relationship then he needs to break all communication with her and she shouldn't be prying herself into a relationship that shes not welcome in.

if hes worth the effort, "keep" him. if not, dump him. simple. if you trust him and what his explanation was, tell him who told you. its HIS responsibility to deal with HIS ex just as it would be yours w/YOUR ex.

Tell him if he doesn't stop talking to his ex you're going to dump him.