To B>, the person who posted a what would you do question?

To the person who posted a what would you do question with the following situation: you went out with a some Air Force buddies, passed out in the back after drinking, and then woke up to a guy feeling you up. I tried posting and answer but you deleted the question before I finished. Here's my take and I hope you see this...

I happen to disagree with those who lay the blame on you. Yes, you could have taken other courses of actions that would have made you less vulnerable. But this does not mean that you are to blame.

The fact of the matter is that this individual took it upon himself to take advantage you. And while doing so, he fondled you to gratify his own sexual desires. HE made the decision to do this, NOT YOU. And by doing this, he SEXUALLY ASSAULTED YOU!

Does alcohol have something to do with this? Absolutely (the majority of sexual assaults do). But alcohol does not justify what he did and therefore you should not sit on this.

If you are in the military, take yourself to the chaplain, the base SARC (Sexual Assault Response Coordinator), your Unit Victim Advocate (UVA), or your military healthcare provider and let them know what happen. These are the only people who can keep this confidential without your command/police knowing about it. Just ask that you want to make it a RESTRICTED report. With this restricted reporting, the military (those 4 individuals) will take care of you without pursuing any criminal charges. In short, it's simply to give you the medical/mental care that you need.

Now, if you want to make it into an UNRESTRICTED report, you can also do so with the above personnel (which is what I recommend). In this case, everyone (including police, CID, your command) will be alerted, and while you are being taken care of, and investigation will be initiated.

You are a victim here, and for all you/we know, your not his first victim and you may not be his last. If you need more info, shoot me an email.