My sister wants to come stay with us for the summer and we will have a 4 week old newborn...?

No you shouldn't tell her to go stay elsewhere. If she wants to stay with you, let your sister stay with you! You can go out and have fun with them. A 4 week old baby can go anywhere you take them!

When I was on base after my sister delivered it seems to me that there is a diverse group of families on base, some what I consider low lives and some normal and some more like my sister and I (academic oriented). There is a mix in family housing that normally wouldn't live next to each other, and because of all the movement in and out with families there is less of a pull towards neighborliness as well. I suppose that's because people move so much and it's so transitory. I am sorry about your sister, the boys were rude as was the mother, but I think she wasn't working with you because for her it's a waste of her investment emotionally. Not that it's right, but the way she sees it. Good for you for staying cool, I don't think I would have.

Totally. this is going to be a wonderful but completely exhausting experience and in my opinion completely the wrong time for house guests especially those who want to be entertained rather than help. You will want and need your husband during the first couple of months for support and help you wont want him off with your sister, I am a little surprised you sister doesnt realise this. Tell her to stay somewhere else you do not need 3 extra people to pick up after and deal with when all you really need is quiet bonding time with your little one. Good Luck

I'd tell her maybe when the baby is older but not now.You need time with the new baby and your husband wont have time to take her and her kids all over because he will also be busy with the new baby.Sounds to me as if she has no common sense.I think she wants a free ride. You cant give her one now because your parenting skills are more important for the baby than for her and her children.Be firm tell her, "Not Now" maybe in a year.My sister came to 'help' with the baby.I was so exhausted by the 3rd day I asked her to please leave as the only help she was providing was herself to my groceries and taking up time that should have been spent with me resting so I could keep up with the new one.She expected me to play tour guide while I was up all night with feedings.She changed one diaper the whole time she was there.Don't let her come.You'll be tired enough,trust me.

Your sister is very selfish. Tell her to not just stay elsewhere, but not to bother coming to your home until she has some respect for others. The world does not revolve around her. Don't worry about hurting her feelings, she has none.

Yes tell her to go stay somewhere else. However, don't expect her to not be hurt by that. It's a reasonable request on your part, but you can't control how she will feel and since she seems to really want to stay with you, she will likely take offense to it. Whether or not that drives a wedge in your relationship depends on the type and strength of the relationship you already have with her. Good luck.

Well..if she wants to stay over..because she has nowhere else to go...then I think it would be mean and cruel to tell her to go somewhere else. Other then that...if she just wants to vacation and be taken care of for fun.....I would tell her no. You're right and I understand about ...getting acquainted with your little one..and having special family time which is probably going to be the best and happiest moment of your life.....but...she is still your sister. You know?

i would tell to come another time the three of need that time together you will never get a second chance at it and you wont know how Precious it really is until it is here plus the both of you especially you will be very tired and need al the rest you can get plus i think it is rude of your sister to do that doesn't she remember what it was like

entertained? while your baby is crying and adjusting to life outside of you? she has 2 sons? wow, she should know of all people or has she forgotten everything already?/ what a selfish woman she is, no offense to you bc shes your sis. I would just tell her forget it. you cant have her over unless shes going to help. the focus should be on your new baby, not her and her sons!

tell her to go and entertain her family somewhere else during the day and that she can crash at your place at night if they really need to. you and your husbands priorities should be your child and new family, not your sisters, she should take care of herchildren and not drag your husband into it due to he now his his own child to care for without addons. you must set the law. your home your family. or reschedule in at least a month.