Problem with mother !?

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Hello friends! Well I don't know whats happening in my house. But in the past 1 year my mother has totally changed. She's getting angry for the smallest things possible on earth and sometimes even for those for which there's jsut no reason to become angry.

I am having 2 problems with her. Guys please help me to solve them.

1) She is getting angry for the smallest reasons in earth and is shouting like anything at us. She even cries so many times. This is so disgusting. She does the mistake, shouts at us like anything for hours and then cried the whole day and doesn't speak to us. If we try to speak to her calmly about her anger, she gets even more angry. Moreover she has a very bad ego. If she has done a mistake, she knows that she has done the mistake, but she never apologizes and tells us that she has done nothing wrong as she never does anything wrong and is always right. Common now-what **** is this?
It really gets on the nerves. She was feeding me when suddenly she got angry and tried to put the food forcefully in my mouth. Man that sucked. I became angry and shouted at her. Instead of telling sorry, she's shouting back at me. In short she has a very bad ego and highly stupid and unclassified anger. It's really screwing our relationships. What should I do guys? She doesn't listen to anybody when she's angry or when she's calm.

2) My second problem is that my mother doesn't allow me to speak or meet my girlfriend. When I am speaking with anybody other than her on the phone or am going to meet anybody other than my girlfriend, then she is cool about it. But when it comes to my girlfriend, I am just not supposed to speak to her or meet her. Only when I speak with my girlfriend, she tells me to study and starts shouting at me. Our house has become a war-zone in this 1 year. I am in a serious relationship with my girlfriend from 4 years and I am not going to break up just because she doesn't allow. But at the same time, I have to keep my girlfriend happy and speak to her and meet her. But my mother doesn't allow. My mother has even told that she shouldn't come to my house also. This is the biggest **** I have ever seen. She always welcomes all my friends but she has told that my girlfriend shouldn't enter my house. I am going through a very mental pressure at the moment and  I don't know what to do. To give you details- I am 17 years old and my girlfriend is also 17 years old and in Class-12th.
So I think we are big enough to be in a relation especially that one which is going so very strong from 4 years. Please help me out guys- as to what should I do? I can't stay without my mother and girlfriend. I need both of them but my mom's not allowing that to happen.

I kindly request all of you reading this- to give me the best advice possible on these 2 problems that I am facing.

lazygal82 · Accepted Answer

The answer to your first problem:

If she  has started getting angry recently (as you describe since 1year ) then i doubt that she might have some physical problems like menopause or BP?whats her age? Why don't you ask her and get her health checked? OR she might be angry because she is too stressed out with too much of work..why should she feed you when you are 17? Dont overload her with work instead help her out in her work and reduce her burden.

Now the second prob:
 
You are old enough to have a girl friend and too young to have your food yourself?ok anyways...If she is fighting only since one year and she dint have any problem for 3years with your girlfriend then you should ask her the reason or may be again her stress factor may be the reason. May be she doesn't have any problem with your girl friend at all, she might be just concerned about your studies. Try to be overly good to her, even if she screams talk calmly, have patience and ask her about her problem seriously and find a solution.

king · Answer

i suggest you try not to make matters at which she'll be angry.try to neglect her while she was shouting at you.may be she was doing so because there may be something you are not doing as her will.try to do so or atleast show you are doing that.
                                                             second thing you are maybe not as lucky as a filmy character that you took your girl friend to your mother and she told you" jeete raho mere laal.kitni sundar bahu laya hai"or whatever try to manage both matters partially.at home no girlfriend matter in front of your mother.hope it'll help you rply by email

sweetheart_in_oz · Answer

if u r 17 why is she feeding you and what are you doing to help our aound the house 

maybe you need to stop seeing your gf and concentrate on your studies 

youve know ur gf for 4 yrs and ur mum for 17 yet ur talking about not leaving your gf 

anyway the bottom line is you will soon be 18 and legally able to leave home so wait till then and support yourself and move out 

not easy is it - i mean supporting yourself

vivekanswers · Answer

Ok first of all she is your mom so u have to love her however she is. If it wasn't for her you wouldn' have been on this earth. She is angry may be because you are giving her less time because of your girlfriend. And you might not be concentrating on your studies. Ask her what is bugging her. If you sit and talk to your mom both your probs will be solved

Anonymous · Answer

i think ur mom is probably depressed over something..thats why she behaves like this...talk to her and dont shout back...try to be supportive of her....try engaging some elder who can talk to her...ur dad or may be some relative...u dont need to always specifically tell her that u r going to meet ur gf,,,just tell her u r meeting ur friends...this way she wont get hurt...she thinks u r too young for all this and should concentrate on ur studies..all parents think like that..so relax....

joeiskrappy · Answer

hehehehehe it's called menopause,  she needs to take hormones. basically her body is going through a BIG change,  look up menopause. get info on taking hormone replacement therapy and gently talk to her, start off with and ask her how she's feeling? and slowly get to talking about it. but don't bring up that she making people miserable. say you're worried about her. with the crying and you don't want her to be sad  
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Menopause

Anonymous · Answer

Just don't rude to her she your mom she make you have life when she shout do like you don't hear her.Buy her nice gift may she feel left out.

john d · Answer

Where is your dad?  She is suffering from depression, she may have anixety disorder.  Is she on any medication ? Did this just start?

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