My brother-in-laws wife?

I'm sorry you're having to deal with that...You did your part...I would have left the message and that be it..if she wants to contact you she can..but in my opinion you did your part.

Know what?

You're the reason she causes you the most stress. You worry too much about what other people think and go off on a tangent when there may be nothing more to it than she hasn't gotten the message or made time to call you.

And stop calling her and wishing her a happy birthday. Why don't you just go on about your business. If she gets in touch with you then hooray. Other than that you're foolish to concern yourself with her and matters as inconsequential as this.

You are creating your own drama honey. You call once and wish a happy birthday and leave it at that. You were waiting for a "thank you" and that is why you kept calling and calling and calling. Just say it once and let it go. Move on with your day. If she doesn't like you then that is her issue. If someone called me 3 times to wish me a happy birthday I would think they were strange.

Hey, if you can acknowledge she's the one that makes you stressed out since she doesn't accept you for you, then you should be equally aware that you are the one who is demanding a friendship with her.

I think it's time you ignore/avoid her. If she can't handle your personality, than you're too good to just be calling her all the time. Find new friends that accept you for you. And if your brother-in-laws wife is not a lady that can do that, it's ok, just don't be good friends with her. You're too good for that.

Keep the stress out. That's my advice.

One call, message left with your brother was enough. If she does not return the call then she is rude, so be it. It is nice that you are trying so hard to tell her in person, but I agree she is dodging. Let her dodge.

There is no sense in wasting your energy on someone who is unresponsive.

Keep doing the right thing, if only for your brother and let the rudeness slide. In the end she looks bad not you.

Stop trying to get her approval. 1 phone call is enough you are coming across as weak insecure and dont know when to stop. Whats going on with you your actions are very strange to such a simple thing that shouldnt be an issue I would avoid you too.

your ocd is a big part of this.....you cant let go.....but you must.....stop trying so hard....do it once, wishing her happy birthday, and then leave it.maybe next year send a card instead of constantly worrying about contacting her personaly. You dont need self induced stress...recognise the fact that you are contributing to your stress levels through your condition. good luck : )

i would not have called after the first time. It is good enough that you left a message with her husband. Don't let her get to you.

You need to work on your depression though. Don't let it ruin yur life!

it's great to be nice & care.but it works both ways!!!!!!you call 3/4 times & she doesn't call u back.fine.you seem like a nice person.keep looking you will find the right person.

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