I want to divorce my husband but don't want to bankrupt him or myself. Should I just walk away?

leaving with nothing would seem to appear more as guilt than good will.

Well, you have my respect.

NO I am NOT kidding.

This kind of woman is a BLESSING,

and you deserve to know it.

The fact that you care about HIM SO MUCH that you want to not ruin everything for him is highly commendable.

Personally, I don't believe in "soulmates".I believe the best you will find in this world is " a mate". And that's if you are doing very well. Comedian Chris Rock shares this opinion too.

Chasing "happiness" is the surest way to never find it.

If you are truly CONTENT - happiness will sure follow.

Do what makes you CONTENT.

This does not "SOUND" as good as the "soulmate happy ending"

But anyone can tell you....

"HAPPY ENDINGS ARE JUST STORIES THAT HAVEN'T FINISHED YET." - Angelina Jolie.

first you need to realize that divorce hurts all parties involved. if that's what you choose, then he is going to be hurt. that's a reality.

i guess the question is, what is the quality of the marriage? is it so bad that you dont see "working on it" as an option? when you got married, did you think your husband was your soulmate? if you believed that he was your soulmate, then i would see if there is a way you could work on the marriage. if you just married without believing he was "the one", then moving on may be the best option.

While I commend you for being so sensitive to his feelings, there comes a point where something has to be done. You cannot stay with someone if they or you are not willing to make the marriage work.

Separating/divorcing now would be difficult because of the economy however it can be done with some compromises (i.e temporarily giving up some toys or ammenities that are not necessary right now, downsizing, etc)

I assume that when you got married that at that time you thought

that you had found you soul mate. What happen to that. Ask yourself.

How will you know. that the next ( soul mate ) you meet wont be the same thing all over again.

It always LOOKS GREENER on the other side of the fence. Until you get there and realize what you thought was green.

Was really just a small clump of grass.

Rethink it.

How do you even know you have a soulmate. I'm 38 and I haven't found one yet. I dont think one exists. So, not only will you be broke and homeless, you may end up alone as well.

Divorcing without taking anything is actually the nicest thing you can do, even though he is going to be hurt about the divorce. However, don't be shocked if he retaliates and tries to go after you for something.

Seriously,Talk to him because that is the right thing to do