Would you take a 21 month old to daddy's coming home ceremony again?

From a soldier's perspective... If your husband has already been home a couple of months already, the excitement of seeing his kids as soon as he got back is gone. (For those who will criticize, I'm not saying he doesn't want to see his son!) The ceremonies are long winded most times and after the first one they just seem like another day of work. Ask your husband if he would like him there for any special reason. If not, enjoy the time you two have together and take a break!

Same thing here! Don't worry, there is a light at the end of the tunnel. I am a mother of three (5,3, and 4mo.). They all did that. It is really hard to get me time when you know that baby is screaming in it's daddy's arms. My youngest is four months old and just stopped this. Don't worry, the baby will soon realize that daddy is a safe place to be too. It just takes time. I am a SAHM too and really need me time. Like I said, I just started getting it. Let daddy hold the baby while you are there. Let him find ways to hold her, change her and feed her. It is something they (dad and bab) need tyo work out. The best way is with you in the other room, that way if it gets too bad, you can intervene if need be.

Is there any way to bring grandma and grandpa along, with the understanding that when things start dragging on, they can leave and take your son with them?

Best of both worlds, I think .

Good luck!

~EDIT~ Oh, by the way, thank you to you and your family for doing what you do.

I cannot even fathom being able to ride the roller-coaster that I imagine an active military family life to be.

The Best of Everything to You and Yours.

Our (oldest) son was 22 months old when my husband returned from a year long deployment from Iraq. I wouldn't even think about leaving him elsewhere. Take him, it will be WELL worth it!!!!

Wow, all we had was a cocktail party and craft/game room for the kids at the leader's club here on post. I don't think I would take him if I didn't have to. It sounds cold and miserable to me.

If you get to communicate with him before he comes home, ask him if he wants his son there.

If you had two bad experiences, then leave him with the grands. It's probably not much fun for him either.

i think he should! it would be alright cause it held on a place that is not dangerous, right? so it is a big ok with me! did u had discuss with your family about this? i think they can help u more than asking here!

I think you should leave him at grandma and grandpa's.