Would you work to keep it going or count it as a loss?

You and your wife need to sit down and figure out what the both of you want. You clearly love your wife and you adore your little girl, and you are the provider for the family.

Ask your wife if she would be willing to negotiate some new family rules. Include your daughter in the project. If your daughter is old enough, put some light chores aside for her to do, like make her bed. Make a corner of the living area for her, with a chair, children's table, or laundry basket where she can store her things. Let her know that that is her space and she should keep it tidy. Praise her when you get home and her little chores are done. She'll feel like a big girl and her daddy is proud of you.

As for your wife, ask her to participate more in the household chores or maintenance. Tell her that you appreciate what she does around the house, but when you get home and have to cook dinner and clean up and then repeat the ritual in the morning, its a bit too much for you. Tell her that you are counting on her to be able to run the house while you are at work, and that you trust her to do a good job.

Set aside chores that you can do quickly when you get home, like folding laundry. The catch: it has to be done by your wife so you can fold it. Include your daughter by letting her pile up the socks or washcloths for you. Ask your wife to put together something in the crock pot or a casserole together and you will clean up when you come home. Split them so you and your wife don't feel like one is getting more chores than the other.

As for your sex life, bring the spark back! Leave work a little early, and bring your wife a bouquet of flowers. Get a babysitter and take her out to supper, or ask your parents to watch your little one and spend a romantic night together to bring some of your passion back!

If none of this helps, I can only think to maybe see a marriage counselor. And if the counselor can't help you and your wife, I would suggest sitting and discussing whether or not you two want to stay married.

I hope everything works out for you! You sound like a Super Dad :)

Your wife's only companion is your daughter during the day and the conversation is the same everyday, so when you're home from work she has someone she could chat with that doesn't involve dolls and other kid subjects, so she goes on and on...very typical.

If your daughter's at an age where she could spend 3 -4 hours a day at a daycare enabling your wife to have a part time job, that would be a win win situation. Your daughter can have playmates, your wife can have a social outlet (she won't be talking you to death upon arrival home from work) and you'll have extra income.

I've had two kids, it really shouldn't be a problem cooking or cleaning while kids are drawing or putting legos together but if it is for your wife then once a week hire a maid to do deep cleaning and the laundry. I have one, she comes every other week to scrub the bathrooms and clean the fridge, cost is $80 per visit, totally worth the money.

Look, marriage takes effort. Good conversations between husband and wife is important and right now the only conversation your wife can have with you is about your child, that's not healthy for you and her. She needs a job where she can meet people and have opinions good or bad.

Make enough breakfast for both you and your daughter and have that be some special time that you spend together during the day. Talk about what she did the day before and what she plans for the day. Shut your phone of during business hours and skip the texting thing during the day, you'll hear all about it when you get home. Use your commute time to decompress. Bring some soothing music to help you calm down when the traffic is bad. There's not much you can do about the traffic but the environment in your car can help calm your mood. Stop and buy your wife some flowers and turn off the t.v. Have a nice dinner with your wife and let her know that your lives need to change. I don't know how old your child is, but perhaps your wife could get a part time job and get a sitter for your daughter. Dogs are great companions if you have time for them. Do you take them for a walk? Maybe you can all go for a walk in the evening if it's nice out. You need to change things up. It is not un-fixable unless you have exhausted every avenue or you don't want to fix it.

I would be having a talk with her and telling her that things have to change or you don't think you can take it. She is home with your daughter and the dogs and she needs to deal with it like a mother and an adult. You are at work and need to focus on that. From now on I would see if your daughter has eaten before you fix your meal and make extra. Actually I would be telling the wife that it is her job and she can fix yours while she is at it. If she the stay at home wife and mother she needs to keep up with the house and get the meals on the table at a reasonable time. I might be asking her if she would like to be told I don't know about when the paycheck was coming.

It might be fixable, but you continue to take the same approach. If it didn't work last time, it's not going to work this time. Address each issue as it happens and go about it in a different way than you have been.Your wife has no respect for you b/c you don't put your foot down. Stop asking questions when you already know what she's going to say.Instead of asking her "what's for dinner" when you know she'll say "I don't know" and end up making nothing, try telling her what you want her to make for you. You're too soft and she takes full advantage of it. Why should she cook,clean,etc. when she knows you're going to do it and not even complain or say anything. You act as if it doesn't bother you..so why should she change?

Sounds pretty typical of marriages. After awhile things can get stale , routine and boring. Kids and pets can add to that too. You guys should see a counselor. Sound like you just need a little something to help spice up your marriage. Try to plan a vacation together. Look online together for some new lovemaking positions. Talk to each other about what you like and what you don't like. One of the biggest problems in relationships is lack of communication.

Try those things out. You might find there still a lot of unexplored potential between you two.

Ur life is my fear. I've been married two and half years. My Wife stays at home. You can't call her a housewife, because housewives Cook and Clean. We don't have any children yet, but we are expecting now.

The day after we found out she was pregnant. (She was only six weeks pregnant.) She stopped doing everything. She stopped cleaning, she stopped going to school, I can't say she stopped cooking, because she didn't do that anyways.

I don't have a recomendation. But I will pray for you.

maybe she is just going nuts from being home all the time and she is starting to shut down. maybe you guys should try going out? or you could suggest she join a gym or something that will give her something she can actually DO besides just be home. When i do things a lot and im active then i LOVE to clean and cook or w/e but the longer i go with just sitting at home with nothing else to do the lazier and more dejected i get and eventually i just dont do anything

Sounds like your wife is either depressed or just plain lazy. If she's depressed, tell her to seek professional help. If she's lazy, tell her to get off her butt and start helping out and taking care of the housework, etc. I don't think it's too much of you to ask of her since you are pretty much doing everything that is required of a husband and then some. If she doesn't want to change, then tell her you won't take anymore of her excuses and leave her and take your daughter with you, if you so choose....Good Luck....I hope things improve for you.

She may be depressed or going through a funk. Maybe she needs something more going on in her life like hobbies or a part-time job just to get her up and moving again.Ask her how she has been feeling about life lately. If she is down suggest she see her doc.