How bad should I bust my "friend's" balls for his lack of effort in our "friendship."?

I understand how you feel. I have a friend that is the same way. every time she is with a new guy it's like our friendship falls to the waist side. Unfortunately we no longer talk and well I can't say we are not friends but well we just don't talk. You need to tell him look dude we have been friends for a long time now and I feel that it's a one sided friendship. Friendship is something where you drop everything to be there for that person. I am the one that moved away so I felt that I had an extra step that I had to go to make sure we didn't loose touch and the last time I went up which she knew 2 months prior that I was coming up and we talked days before me coming back and when I got there no phone call no nothing. I got back she said she had got so busy and forgot. Some friend right. I don't know man. Out of sight out of mind thing can really apply here. You need to let him know how you feel. Or it could be the end of what used to be a great friendship.

To the ones that are saying you are being selfish please ignore them. They apperently don't get where you are coming from and apperently don't realize that you guys don't live right down the street from each other and talk everyday. You just need to tell him how you feel. He has to know or he will think everythings fine when really you don't feel that way.

Does the actual study or just the mail's editorialising indicate that its female teachers. Hartley herself uses the word adult while the mail uses the inserts the word women and then notes "The study drew no distinction between the beliefs and classroom practices of male and female teachers" i.e. the study can't really speak for you or the mail's idea. Hardly shocking that the Mail would come out with this given its target readership. More to the point women teachers have outnumbered male teachers long before the boy crisis since the 1870s and through 1960-80, suddenly in 1990 this idea resurfaced. Its hardly old though it was one of the principled behind setting up the boy schools because men were being feminised in the home. In fact her research just points out that schools characterise boys in a certain way(where hartley says adults endorse stereotypes the mail writes women urge boys to act in feminine ways-not the study). Also the researcher suggests that teachers reinforce and expect boys low performance as masculine so I don't think it works alongside the argument that teachers are surpressing masculinity as the mens movement would argue. and many other studies show that laddish behaviour is important in determining antiswot attitudes as well. While boys are expected to act this way girls that do are harshly criticised according to research by diane ray. Its unusual that social constructions don't exist. Em except in the social construction of boys underperfomance by female teachers according to you. and only the state and women can socially construct("engineer") things not churches, communities familes or peers- What a double standard.

Can you email or write him a letter? It is best for you to speak in person but a letter might give him some time to mull it over. Just say to him taht you really value his friendship - may be say why you like him! Then say that you don't feel he is respecting you and it has hurt you. Say you would like to know if there is a problem, because then you can fix it.

If he doesn't respond, he has bigger problems than you know about. Just try not to judge and give him space to come to you.

I really can't offer you advice unless your friends are like my friends. When I encounter such a problem, I tell my friend to stop being a "dick" and either tackle him or resolve it through improper ways. In this situation, you need to find out what is going on immediately before this turns into a "this one old friend of mine" stories when you're sharing your memories with others. Losing a friend is hell and I feel your pain, I've lost many friends because of bs. Figure out whats wrong, keep calling him because you never know, he might never call you. Or this all could be a mistake and he may be simply really busy, the only way to find out is check in on him.

Well you could "bust his balls" but how long would that make you feel good for once you notice that your friend you had for fifteen years is gone because you "busted his balls". You should come forth with him in a serious matter and say, hey look man we have been friends for fifteen years and i feel that me and you are drifting apart and i don't understand why can you please tell me why you are neglecting me. And if he is just a jackass and doesn't want to be your friend anymore then let it be. You know the saying,"if you love something let it go and if it comes back to you it was yours, if it doesn't come back to you it was never yours to begin with".

You have to realize that he is dating now. He has fallen in love with someone which means his relationship with you does not take priority anymore.

As a MARRIED man you should understand why he is acting like this. You have to give him some slack and respect the fact that he has a life that doesn't revolve around you. It also seems to me that you are being a little bit of a pest and selfish. You say you had to be the 'bigger man'? How old are you? Sounds like you are jealous that he has a life with someone else.

Sorry, just my opinion.

Dude I know exactly how you feel, I have a friend that is the same way your friend is. He's always lying and pretending to not notice his phone ringing, and hardly texts back.

You should confront him or find a new Best friend (I know its easier said than done), but seriously thats the only way.

Well first of all he is a jerk and i think if one of my friends did that then there face would be rearranged so i would say that if he cant share his time with you and his [gf] then i would just walk away and tell him that you need a new best friend and that he has been a jerk to you and thats what he deserves.

This "girlfriend" is imaginary and he's embarrassed that he is without a significant other and you have one. Give him space, dude.You should be the one "busted" as you have zero social skills and are as perceptive as a mule. He is suffering in some way with disappointment and embarrassment and you are oblivious and only thinking of yourself.

You sir are an overbearing insensitive buffoon who cares only for yourself. I'd avoid you if I knew you and I pray I never will.

Hi sounds reallly bussyy.

i really think he just needs some space right now.

good luck though!

but thats really mest up what he did..