Ladies, I'm wondering if I am being a jerk and unreasonable ?

well, it depends, if that wild sexual period is something she regrets i doubt that she would want to relieve it with you. if she is just wild, than you probably will have a wild sex life. but the thing is, a lot depends on the man. find out what she likes and i am sure you both will have great sex

It's hard to say--there are too many details left out. Why is the sex not wild? Was it never wild between the two of you? Or was it wild, then became tame, and perhaps infrequent, over time? Do you have kids now? Is it possible that she's not enjoying herself? Is it possible she wants you to do something you don't want to do, and she's annoyed, so holding back? Is it possible when she did those things before meeting you, she was drunk or stoned a lot and doesn't want to do the same things sober? Are you unsatisfied, or is it that you want *more and different*? Does she use sex to manipulate or control you? Is she ashamed of how she used to act with other guys? Does she feel you will think she's slutty if she does some of these wild things? You have to find out what is going on in your wife's head and body in order to assess what's going on. You have to have an honest and sincere talk to figure out what's going on, and if there's anything you can do to make your sex life better. And you'll have to reach some compromise about what you want and what she wants. If she refuses to compromise, and insists on her way, then she's being unreasonable. If you refuse to compromise, then it's you who is unreasonable.

Also keep in mind, like another poster said, that you could take measures to CREATE wild sex with her.

I had a wild sexual history before I met my husband but he also don't hold it against me. When we make love as a married couple I don't have to do wild things to satisfy him. It's the being together as husband and wife that makes it special and unique. We could have boring sex and it would be wonderful to me because it's with someone I love.

Well you really shouldn't expect anything because you know when you expect something to be a certain way it ends up being the total opposite. I don't see why you guys can't have wild sex. Talk to her about it, you know people change and her past activities may have been experimental. She may not feel the same way about wild sex as she did before.

I would venture to guess that over 50% of married women had a pretty wild sex life when they were younger. And according to recent statistics some still are. Of course this is something most of them will never admit to. My first wife had a very subdued sex life when she was younger. But after we got married she turned into a regular porn star (lucky me). My 2nd wife was pretty wild in her youth, but after we got married she slowed down quite a bit (lucky me, the age thing).

Just let her set the pace, she'll let you know what she wants and needs. Enjoy her for who she is, not for who she was.

What you have to understand is that just because she was out "sowing wild oats" doesn't necessarily mean she actually enjoyed it. She mught have been using her sexuality as a rebellion or doing caving to peer pressure. What you need tio do is establish a line of communication with her where the two of you can discuss your (both) sexual needs and desires and find ways of fulfilling each other,

If there's something missing in your sex life, try asking her about introducing new positions/outfits/locales/etc. Or just surprise her with hot sex! But do NOT bring up her past or make her feel guilty about not being as wild with you -- that will make you an insensitive jerk!

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you chose her to be your wife...most young people have a wild sexual history and than you grow up and learn that sex is just sex and not love.

you can love somebody and have wild sex but you can't always have wild sex and be in love...

If she doesn't want to have crazy sex with you, why are you pressuring her? Maybe it brings back a lot of pain and discomfort for her. Why don't you give her a break? There is no reason to expect anything from your spouse, what are you? A 16 year old boy?